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iheartmtdew's picture

Submitted by iheartmtdew on Wed, 08/17/2016 - 3:19pm

Hello everyone - I am not sure where to start, so I am just going to introduce myself to everyone. I have a BF (not husband) who has two children (boy, 15 and girl, 13) that I have been involved with for 7 years. We have not married, reason I will explain later if needed (medical). He has a "wonderful" ex wife. Things are absolutely horrible at home. Constant fighting between him and I now for years it seems. His kids, are nuts (I dont know of a nice way to put it), threats to call DHS etc if they dont get their way on anyone that crosses their path (bf, bm, sm, siblings etc). My life has completely fallen apart and he makes me feel like I am the crazy one.

I plan on telling my story for advice but in the mean time while I gather my thoughts I just wanted to say hi and thank you for this place.

oh... is there a limit on how many words one can post at one time on here? I am afraid of writing an a novel here, and no one reads it.

Thanks

(I hate Mt Dew BTW)

"LOSTHOPE"

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ESMOD's picture

Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 08/17/2016 - 3:23pm

Welcome and sorry you seem to be having a hard time.

I don't think there is any word limit and in fact, it is probably better to try to put out "all the relevant information" or else everyone will have to read between the line and make assumptions and sometimes those assumptions will be way off base.

Last In Line's picture

Submitted by Last In Line on Wed, 08/17/2016 - 3:39pm

Welcome!

The brief bit you've posted is enough for me to say that I'd be escaping that situation!

Tuff Noogies's picture

Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Wed, 08/17/2016 - 3:41pm

there's only one thing that will make any of us avoid a post - failure to break it up into paragraphs. seems like u'll be fine in that department Wink

welcome!!

iluvcheese's picture

Submitted by iluvcheese on Thu, 08/18/2016 - 9:24am

lol…& lack of punctuation. Those two things get me every time. I try, but often can't get through that sort of thing.

ntm's picture

Submitted by ntm on Wed, 08/17/2016 - 7:01pm

Welcome and whatever you do, do not marry this man. When they make you feel like you're the crazy one, they are covering for their own failures.

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Submitted by SMto2 on Wed, 08/17/2016 - 9:20pm

Welcome! I'm guessing you have your reasons, but I can't understand staying in a relationship in which you are so miserable--unless you like being miserable or have reason to believe it will change. So many of us are hit over the head with,"You knew what you were getting into when you married him." That may be true, but walking away when you're not married is soooo much easier. So what's the reason you stay ?

Stepped in what momma's picture

Submitted by Stepped in what... on Thu, 08/18/2016 - 3:26pm

^^^^^^THIS^^^^^
If you move out they will have no one to blame and your SO will have to deal with his own mess.

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Submitted by Sailor on Thu, 08/18/2016 - 4:43am

"My life has completely fallen apart and he makes me feel like I am the crazy one."

Oh Boy! This I can relate to; it happened to me. Turns out I was married to a Narcissist.

iluvcheese's picture

Submitted by iluvcheese on Thu, 08/18/2016 - 9:42am

Hi. Vent away. I find this to be an extremely supportive place, with lots of great empathetic women (& some men too).

I read the long stuff & I know others do too. I don't think there's a limit to how much you can write, as others have said.

In your post, maybe describe what goes on that you're being made to feel crazy. Is he dismissing your feelings & making it seem like it's your problem? Because he shouldn't dismiss your feelings & if you have a problem with something, it is a problemregardless of whether he sees it as problematic. I'm also curious about the "wonderful" BM, lots of us deal with that too.

Being unhappy sucks, life is too short for that. Do what you have to do, in order to feel fulfilled & happy with yourself & your life.