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O/T Is DH hiding something?

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Submitted by loveandfitness on Wed, 06/17/2015 - 5:10pm

Okay, so earlier today DH downloaded some pictures for me to print off of his computer before he went to the office.
I brought him lunch and while I was there decided to send them to get printed off. When I downloaded them into my picture account from his downloads file it grabbed all of his pictures in that file instead of just the few I needed. Among those pictures were several clothed yet provocative pictures of young women (i didn't get a good look at them all, so i dunno if it's the same one) that look like they came from social media. He was sitting next to me when I pulled them up so I showed it to him and said "Look what downloaded from the file with my stuff..." He immediately grabbed up the computer
"What?! Who's that? I don't even know that girl, so-and-so must've been downloading things."
So I said "Oh, then you'll want to go through that folder cuz I think there were several pictures like that." To which he got defensive and mad.
"Well why didn't you get the pictures from the PICTURE folder? Why did you go through my downloads?"
"Cuz DH, you didn't tell me you put them in a specific folder so it was the easiest place to look...when you download things that's automatically where they go and STAY until you delete or move them."
At that point he told me to leave. Which shocked me.
When I asked why he said "because I can't concentrate with you here and now I have to deal with you glaring at me like I'm a horrible person.
I honestly don't think I was glaring... I was't suspicious of anything until he reemed me for "going through" his folder.
At that point I started to get upset and said "Well you invited me down here and asked me to bring lunch and told me to stay and hang out but when I showed you pictures you asked me to leave... what should I think about that??"
He started to argue, stopped, then said "fine you can stay."
I left immediately.
He just tried to call twice but I missed them. Then i got a text saying "Sorry I was a butt."
A butt..... that's one way to put it.

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anothermom's picture

Submitted by anothermom on Wed, 06/17/2015 - 5:25pm

LOL, someone got embarrassed!!!
I bet the pics did come from the net!!!!

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Submitted by BethAnne on Wed, 06/17/2015 - 5:29pm

Could be worse, the other week I found pictures of BM sticking a dildo in herself and other such pleasant pictures in the download folder on a computer I bought for my husband after we started dating.... I just casually told my husband that I found them and deleted them one evening and let him stew in it. A couple of days later he tried to explain to me why they were there..I forget what his excuse was now.

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Submitted by loveandfitness on Wed, 06/17/2015 - 5:34pm

Gross!! If I saw pics of BM like that I think I'd have to pull out my eye balls!
It's weird because like you, I found worse stuff (not BM though) on DH comp when we first started dating and did the same thing. Mentioned what I found and asked him to delete it. All he said was "Oh, sorry you saw that, I'll take care of it." and the next day it was all gone. No big deal.

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Submitted by BethAnne on Wed, 06/17/2015 - 5:49pm

It was gross. I know these things happen in relationships, I just don't want to see the evidence. I know that my ex's had photos of me and I explicitly told them to delete them after we broke up, but who knows if they did?

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Submitted by z3girl on Wed, 06/17/2015 - 6:10pm

This happened to me. There had to be 100's of sexy pictures of random women in my DH's downloads. I asked him about it, and he couldn't believe they were there. I know he likes to look at things online, so I wasn't completely blind-sided by it. Seeing him squirm was amusing.

Go with your gut. Life is too short to be wasting time suspicious. Sounds to me he was embarrassed.

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Submitted by Redredwine on Wed, 06/17/2015 - 6:10pm

It's not okay. Go with your gut. I did with a previous relationship. It started similar to your situation.

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Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Wed, 06/17/2015 - 6:31pm

If it was harmless and he said opps, caught me, I'd have no issue.

The way he did handle it, I'd have a huge problem.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Wed, 06/17/2015 - 7:05pm

I would press farther. My DH is a pretty decent guy, and I accidentally caught him flirting with ladies by private message on facebook. Nothing raunchy, just "OMG you are so sexy, so hot, you look just as good as you did in high school". I was FURIOUS.

We had a huge blow up where he tried to defend it as "him being nice and trying to boost their self esteem" (nice try, huh?)and then he finally admitted it was wrong and he would have been crushed if I had done the same. I was able to point out that the women he did this to were beyond less than interested and giving him cues to politely go away, and he missed those cues.

Example: DH: You look amazing in that dress! You always had a sexy body"
Lady: Thanks, how is your wife and kids these days?

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 06/18/2015 - 7:34am

Were they pics downloaded from his phone?
When DH has downloaded porn on his phone, sometimes there are pics from that. So when we put the pics on the computer to then print off later, there are basically pics that were from the videos. Not sure how/why it does it.
Because that happened to us one time and at first I'm like Who the F is this and then I'm look oh yeah that was from that video we watched. Dirol }:)

Not sure why he was such a jerk. Maybe he was hiding something or embarrassed.

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Submitted by nunya1983 on Thu, 06/18/2015 - 1:51pm

Yes, I am very much thinking that he is hiding something, and judging by his reaction, it's something big.