My DH and I have been married for almost 6 years. Almost immediately after we got together, SS at the time 4 now 10 started living with us the majority of the time. We didn't just battle in court for BM to have little or no visitation it was an all out war. She is an untreated bipolar and god knows what else and just a horrible parent and human being for so many reasons but that's not my current problem. She has been out of the picture for going on 3 years now on her owe accord. I've been raising him as my own, and he sees it that way as well. SS has been in therapy since he was 4 as he has always had mood issues and sociopathic red flags. He has caused us so much trouble with his lying, manipulating, stealing, sneaking, conniving, and his lack of remorse even though he knows what he is doing is wrong and makes the conscious decision to do it any way. He has stabbed girls in school with pencils or more than one occasion. By 1st grade he had already had over 24 behavior reports, 5 detentions, a 3 day suspension, and a suicide referral for saying he would bring a gun to school and shoot himself. In the most recent years, he received more suspensions, but also, when asked in class to write a "How to" book on any topic and he wrote "how to make a bomb", he showed interest in the Sandy Hook shootings, and the day we brought our daughter home from the hospital he brought a knife to school. His pediatrician even told us that we need to get him help because "he's the type of kid who would shoot up a school". She sent us to a new dr for a new psychiatric evaluation. We explained our concerns then she talked to him alone. He diagnosis was that there was absolutely nothing wrong with him and that DH and I had the problem and need a special type of parental counseling. He also manipulated her into thinking his speech was so bad when several specialists say he can speak perfectly well he just chooses to stutter when it serves him. Dh and I never felt comfortable letting our baby girl sleep in her crib as we didn't trust him. Every time we was around her, he made me so uncomfortable and anxious. Finally I had enough when during my daily inspections of his room, I found the nail file off of nail clippers hidden under his bed. DH thought I was overreacting but I just had it with feeling so unsafe in my own home. I told him that they had to leave. SS was standing behind him smirking. We were separated for 2 weeks. DH called me and said that he was finally ready to bring him to a hospital for serious help as over the 2 weeks, he had several outbursts threatening to hurt himself or others. He asked if he could come home so his family wouldn't find out and help check him in. I agreed. SS had touched one of his friends on his privates before so the hospital didn't allow him to share a room even with cameras and nurses everywhere. They kept him for only 6 days as they were only a stabilizing hospital. A psychologist recommended a boys home 15 mins away from our house where he would live Sunday night through Friday afternoon and come home on the weekends. They would send him to school, he lives in a dorm room with 10 other boys his age, they have games, tvs, pets, and most importantly therapists every day and a psychiatrist who goes there 3 days a week. Luckily they accepted him and he started immediately. He continued to act in uncomfortable ways with the baby. He rubs her chest, pulls up her shirt or dress, tries to watch us change her, if she's standing up playing he pulls her shirt to make her fall onto his lap, and he doesn't stop when we tell him to. Halloween night, DH was holding the baby on the couch and tickling her. SS was sitting right next to him and out the corner of my eye I could see him trying to make sure no one could see him as he began to touch her private area on top of her clothes. I was so disgusted and in shock all I said was "OK time for bed time baby girl" and brought her to her room. I told DH that night that I no longer feel comfortable having him being around her anymore. He cannot be controlled as he doesn't obey anything, doesn't stop anything when we tell him to, he lies, and never does what we tell him to do and if he could touch her with us right there, what could he do when he's supposed to be in his room or sleeping. Since then, DH has been staying with other people on weekends. I dread the weekends and holidays because it means we won't be together. I have suffered so much because of SS and I refuse to let her be his next victim. Over a dozen people that know him say that they see that he is dangerous. Dh told his dad what happened and he said that he wasn't surprised that he touched her and that it is obvious something is seriously not right with him. I cannot nave him around my daughter, I can't even look at him now, but it really hurts not having Dh with me and the baby. Does anyone have any ideas?