First off, here is an excerpt from a letter written by SS's pediatrician for court about his Asperger Syndrome:

"These individuals need to be raised in a structured environment, conducive to nurturing. The caretakers must be stable individuals willing to educate themselves on this disorder. They should investigate the best behavioral and educational interventions which will help shape thse individuals into productive, independent adults. The caretakers need to be extremely patient and compassionate. They should be unconditional with support. If these children are given the tools and support they need in their formidible years, they have the best chance of being self sufficient, attending college, and choosing an appropriate career and starting a family. Studies have shown that individuals with Asperger's Syndrome, who are not given this unconditional support are more likely to turn to substance abuse and suicide... I do feel that [Dh] and [me] give [SS] the support and environment he needs to grow and become a self-sufficient individual with Asperger's Syndrome."

Pretty compelling, huh?

BM has now only exercised 3 out 6 visitations, called past the 7:30 time last Tuesday (supposedly she was running errands), and completely failed to call last night. Last Thursday during her call, she told SS that she would see him on Sunday. After speaking with her mom all week, we knew that neither her nor her other daughters were driving her. Her mother also said that she told her the car wouldn't be fixed in time as it needs 4 new tires and many other serious repairs. We also were informed by her mother that BM's pregnancy was planned!!!! How fucking dumb can you be to try to have a baby when you have no job, no car, no stable living situation, and no stable income? It breaks my heart to think of the life this poor baby faces. She is also off of her bi-polar or depression medication since she started trying to conceive. She also told her mother that she believes SS will be going home to live with her after this next court date in January. How fucking delusional do you have to be to think they will remove a child from a home he's lived in for almost 3 years, away from his school since she lives in 3 parishes away (equivalent of counties in Louisiana), and into a house where she lives with her boyfriend who is not allowed in SS's presence, lives with at least 2 other adults and 1 7 year old girl, and over 30 miles away from every single family member, friend, academic, and social aspects of his life, and when she has no job or car. You also can't forget the fact that he has special needs. Dh called her and asked how she was going to pick him up then. She said that her car may be fixed by then. He told her that she needed to get her mom, sister, or someone else to drive her as SS cannot get into the car with her driving with a warrant out for her arrest. If she was to be pulled over and taken to jail, he would either go into the custody of the state or to her boyfriend because she would not tell them to call Dh. She then proceeded to yell and scream. She also threatened to press charges against "everyone of yall asses for lookin up my private shit." He told her that is it is all public record. She responded by saying "No its not [me] and her maw better watch out." Not only is it public record, but the police officer who responded to the molestation call in June called in her name and birth date and told us a warrant came back. After that, Dh called her mother to discuss what just happened. She said that she just got a threatening call as well. She also yelled and screamed at her mother claiming that she knew that she had SS that previous weekend. Her mother is religious and doesn't curse. With that being said, her mother said "that bitch is a crazy piece of shit." On Saturday around noon, her mother called Dh saying that her and her daughter who lives next door were talking and wanted to see if there was a way for them to get visitation with SS for a few hours or so every other weekend when this bitch backs out if our attorney says it's okay. She believes and even confronted her about the fact that this baby is just an attempt to replace SS and that after it comes, she will disappear from his life. Dh told her that of course we could work something out and nothing formal needs to take place to allow them that time with him. He told her about the doctor's letter. As he was telling her about it, she interrupted him with some of the information. He said "oh, you've done some research." She said "of course, I love him." As they were talking, Dh received a text from the bitch saying that "I guess I won't see [SS] tomorrow since my family is too busy to bring me and you won't let me pick him up." Her mother said that they are not busy. She only asked her not her sisters. She can't drive her as her car is in the shop, and she refuses to ask someone to borrow their car for such an ungrateful, uncaring bitch who doesn't help pay for gas. Both of her sisters were free. Not to mention that taxi services were working. Her mother just said that she doesn't really care about him, and she is very disgusted with her. She said that she is a lying and manipulative person and is very sorry she ever gave her the benefit of the doubt. On Sunday, she sent a text message asking how SS was doing. He told her "Great and happy playing with a friend." She responds "Why are you saying hes happy is it because hes not with me?" Sounds like she already knows the answer to that. Sounds like a guilty conscious. He said "I answered your question period." She said "Whatever just remember that I will always be his mommy no matter how hard you try to get me out of his life it aint happenin." Mommy?! Mommy?! A mommy cares for their child. A mommy fucking shows up for their child. A mommy supports their child emotionally and financially. A mommy puts the child above everything else. What the fuck makes her a mommy?!

Dh got a phone call yesterday from the psychological evaluator wanting to schedule an appointment so that he could write a report by next month's court date and close out the case. He said that he could meet after the new year in his office in our city on the south shore of Lake Pontchartrain, or he could meet next week in his office on the north shore of the lake about 50 miles away. Since we care and want this over with, we took the north shore appointment on 12/28/11. Dh then asked if he could meet with me as well in light of the GAL law student bitches' ridiculous and defamatory allegations against me for parental alienation, in fact the worse they've ever seen. Such bullshit!! The evaluator said "they are very aggravating aren't they?" Dh's face lit up like a christmas tree. He said "yes and all they are doing is distracting everyone from the real issues." He agreed. After that, he called right back to ask if the bitch had the same phone number. She told her mother that she had already gone to see him. If you had just met with someone in the last few weeks, wouldn't you know if their contact information had changed? The way he made it sound didn't sound like he was asking because he wanted to follow up on a previous meeting. It sounded like the other times he has asked this question which was always because he couldn't get in touch with her and hadn't even gotten her to answer the phone. Our attorney said that the hearing officer is starting to turn to our side as her story just isn't adding up. What stands out in his head is that, if people are making false allegations against you, wouldn't you get in to see the evaluator as soon as possible? Since she didn't go, then it stands to reason that they were not false nor does she even care to try to see "her" child as the psychological evaluator is your only hope of increasing your visitation. We were ordered to go the first week of September. We went and paid for the full amount for Dh's and SS's update. When we went to court on 11/10, she had not gone nor even answered or returned the evaluator's calls. If she doesn't go this time, the evaluator will be forced to write a report using only the information we have given him. Whatever the evaluator says goes, so it is of the utmost importance. Dh feels so much better knowing that the evaluator doesn't take those GAL bitches seriously. We also feel a lot better knowing that her mother wants to testify about that bitch and how crazy, unstable, irresponsible, and simply just doesn't care about SS. We also learned that policies have changed, and now every parent has to financially support their child. It is now against public policy to even mutually agree that the other parent doesn't have to pay child support. The Louisiana minimum is $100 a month. Also, the amount can be determined using her previous job ($1,200/month). Basically, the amount is based on what you are capable of making not what you are actually making. This is great since she has been collecting unemployment since May. This change is due to some deadbeat parents choosing to either not work or work at less-paying jobs in an attempt to not have to pay much support. There is no reason why she can't work right now. Pregnant people work all the time, and that is her only excuse. She is only 12 weeks as well. Also, the child support dates back to when we filed it. We filed it in July, so that means come January, she will owe us 6 months worth of back child support so at least $600. We're going to ask for at least half of every therapist appointments co-pay since we pay for and provide health insurance. He needs regular counseling, speech therapy, occupational therapy, and life skills training. Plus, he will need to go to a private school next year at $5,200. She should also have supervised visitation especially in light of the fact that she is not currently taking her medication as court ordered back in March of 2009. Lack of medication plus raging hormones in a person that already has "severely poor judgment" (quote from the evaluator) could be very dangerous for SS. Not to mention she molested him in June!! The supervision will also be at her expense. She could stand to pay hundreds a month. Our hope, wish, prayer, whatever you want to call it, is that she will not want to pay all of that, especially when she has to support her boyfriend's 3 year old and their new one, and will go to jail if she doesn't pay and just forfeit her rights to him as that is the only way she wouldn't have to pay for him. I'm hoping that her boyfriend convinces her that it's a good idea as she isn't working so it'll have to come from his paycheck and they have to support his kid and new one. I believe her mother would also try to convince her of this fact too because we will not hold back. We are going to get the support managed by the Juvenile court instead of the domestic court because they handle it very diligently. If you don't pay on time, they garnish wages, tax returns, and put you in jail immediately.

Her mother also told us that SS puts on an act and pretends when he is around BM because he is scared of her. She said that he has not been lying to us or telling us what we want to hear. He is doing that with her out of fear and it breaks her heart. I always wanted to believe that as I hate liars and after everything he has said and done about BM, he would have had to been liar of the fucking millennium. He has also been, as he always has been, so much happier since he hasn't been seeing her which only confirms what her mother said. Everyone of this site also said that he was acting loving towards her out of fear, so you were all right. I need to listen to you ladies more often lol.