My DH and I have been married for almost 6 years. Almost immediately after we got together, SS at the time 4 now 10 started living with us the majority of the time. We didn't just battle in court for BM to have little or no visitation it was an all out war. She is an untreated bipolar and god knows what else and just a horrible parent and human being for so many reasons but that's not my current problem. She has been out of the picture for going on 3 years now on her owe accord. I've been raising him as my own, and he sees it that way as well.

We receieved a letter yesterday from the d.a.'s officer requesting that SS and Dh go meet with her on January 9 regarding a "pending criminal matter against Bm." Yaaaaay!!! Justice finally may be served!!! It looks like they may charge her with sexual battery, "touching the genitals of another without consent." The reason for this charge and not a more serious molestation charge is they couldn't prove intent to cause arousal to him or herself as he is only 7 and couldnt tell if either of them were aroused (even if he did, I don't think he'd say if he was).

BM cancelled her visit yesterday under the guise that she wanted us to be able to do something with him. She frequently cancels, so this was a bullshit excuse. She also asked that we not use it against her in court. Dh told her 2 weeks ago that she can call SS whenever she wants instead of just the Tuesday and Thursday she's allowed. She has never called except for those days. In fact, after seeing him for 5 hrs Thanksgiving day, she didn't even call him that night. She never made an attempt to even talk to him yesterday since she cancelled the visit.

Since we got together, SS or BM or both have ruined every single holiday. Thanksgiving, Christmas, my birthday, our wedding day, honeymoon, f'n arbor day it doesnt matter the day he ruins it. How can I live a life where no day can be nice or special? How can I bring kids into this life where no day is special and everything gets ruined or complicated? It's really starting to make me doubt our marriage and make me regret getting with especially since dh doesnt even attempt to try to make things special or try to make up/compensate for how his bullshit ruins and makes my life miserable.