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Changing for the better Maybe?

Chinkylana's picture

So my last entry me and my wife were having issues with finding alone time. We havent gotten much of that issue taken care of yet...but the day after my post my wifes GM went into the hospital. Things went a little crazy (more than usual) but we are returning back to norm again. The ss7 still doesnt give us any privacy. I have now started to just go along. I dont sweat her about the situation anymore. If she asks me if i have a problem i just sat no and return it with something sweet (even if i do just want to push the little munchkin out and shut the door (push into the hallway of course)) She thinks everything is fine now because i have put on this happy face. She thinks we are turning into quite the little family that she always wanted. Hopefully one day i will get used to the whole family thing and the time we dont get. Everyone has to sacrifice at times.

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Needalifeboat's picture

Sad This makes me sad for you. You've resorted to being an actress in your own home? No, just no. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. You just want some time with her, for you two to have some time to connect. That is not an unreasonable request!

I read your last blog entry. Do you have days off where you don't get up so early? Can you go to bed a little later at least one night during the workweek? You'll be tired the next day but it could be worth it!

If SS goes to bed at 8, firm bedtime 8:00,can you put a movie in? Or have a late meal together? Just something so you can be alone and reconnect. You both deserve this!

Chinkylana's picture

We have onlu been together a little over a year which is why i dont voice much. Im not trying to intrude on the situation or their relationship. When i do vc how i feel she says she understands and that she had him so he has to be with her. She once thought about letting him live with another family member which is when i stepped back from my feelings. Felt like i was putting too much pressure on her. When she made that statement it made me feel like i was bieng selfish.

Chinkylana's picture

Im not sure how else to handle the situation. I love her and i want to be with her and i know she loves me. The only way i know to deal is to just let it go.