Thinking of the children
So SS15 who lives with us, is now failing 5 out of 6 classes and has been grounded from everything for 3 weeks swore he had all of his work caught up. He asked yesterday if he could go for a bike ride at 12:30 so DH said yes. 6 hours later he is still gone and we finally find him at BMs house. He then calls at 9 to see if he can spend the night. Two weeks ago he spent the night and got sick on the way to school because BMs house is so filthy. He had to sleep in a chair because his bed is covered in cat urine. I gave in and took his backpack over because it is easier than fighting with him or her. BM comes outside to talk to me and explains to me that her and SS15 were talking about school and she is telling him that he is almost old enough to drop out and that there is not much difference is dropping out or failing. What kind of mother does this. What happened to encouraging your child to be the best he can be. Now he is playing games with all of us. He tells DH and I that he doesn't want to go to his moms but then he tells BM that he wants to move back in with her and that we are keeping him from seeing her and her family.
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That is all I can do with
:jawdrop:
That is all I can do with this...
who tells a 15 year old kid
who tells a 15 year old kid ok to drop out of school. If he drops out tell him and his BM he needs to find a new place to live. That is just insane.
He was informed that if he
He was informed that if he drops out he is on his own because we will NOT support him. He was told when he moved in with us last November that this was not going to be. Im mad at my mom so im going to live with my Dad and then im mad at Dad so im going to live with mom. He understood and we told him the other day that if he moves back into is moms he can visit us but he is not moving back in with us.
When he lived with his mother
When he lived with his mother before he was absent or tardy more than he was at school. This woman doesn't deserve her pets let alone to raise children. While i was there yesterday she also informed me that they have spent all day throwing away food (that was purchased with food stamps) because they have so many mice in the house that the is poop in everything.
In our state, you have to be
In our state, you have to be 17 (just raised the limit this year) to drop out. So if he isn't old enough allowed by law, then he can't drop out. If he doesn't attend, then the truancy laws come into effect, and BM can get in trouble for that. So you may just want to pack him up and ship him out.
Thats the topic of discussion
Thats the topic of discussion in our house tonight if he comes home. DH is going to tell him he either respects the house and our rules or he moves back to his moms
When BM starts getting into
When BM starts getting into trouble bc of the boy, she will start the you are moving back to Dads.
Like our BM, she wants to be the fun parent and then its call Dad when it isn't fun anymore. But I would say no state will allow a 15yo to drop out, maybe 16 but you would have to check your state laws on that one.
As far as dropping out, if I
As far as dropping out, if I were this kid's dad, I'd let him know in no uncertain terms that if he doesn't pull it together in public school, he'll be in military school where failure isn't an option.
The telling both adults different stories would stop real quick. I'd sit him down with his mom and dad and explain right in front of him that the playing both sides against the middle was over. We just had a chat like this in the therapist office the other day over SD6. Made her perfectly aware that we realize that she tells two different stories, one at mom's and one at dad's, and that we all find out because we all talk.
That would work if BM wasnt a
That would work if BM wasnt a flying nut bag. She has encouraged his behavior all along. SS9 and SS7 both have problems because of her. She has lied to them so much they dont know what way is up. She wants me gone and has used the kids for the past 3 years to try to get her way.