"Sorry I'm late, traffic...full of shit"
so bm was suppose to drop off ss at 12:30 after his practice. she comes at 1:00. i told her 4 days ahead of time that i had plans and he needs to be dropped off at 12:30...does she do that NO! after dropping off ss i see a dog in her car? i ask ss did you bring your dog to practice? he says oh no, he had a hair cut and we picked him up after practice. i was furious inside, mad because she was late, mad because she lied and said it was traffic. she was late because of the dog. why didn't she pick up the dog after dropping him off so that she would be on time? the groomer place was on her way home too. it takes only 10 mins to get to my house from practice. i've just had it with this stupid beast...i'm ignoring her from now on, no more of this talk about being nice and cordial...i've been doing that for 7 yrs now and i only get the shit attitude! thanks for this site i can vent.
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Hmmm....
A dog, eh? Well, if it were me, I would have called her on it by saying...
Yes, I'm sure traffic was full at the groomer's my dear. Next time, I'll meet you at the pound... }:)
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
Next time
tell her earlier timeframe. Our bm is habitually late to everything, and she use to be intentionally late just to piss us off. One time she refused to show up to drop ss off for visitations claiming that the roads were in bad conditions, then I called DOT and learn that the roads were being recorded as "bare and dry".
So when there is a really important date, and ss needs to be ontime, I tell bm that practice/whatever is 2 hours earlier than it is.
Sorry she doesn't love her son enough to get him to practice on time...
Candice
Why don't YOU show up late next time....
And when SHE has to sit here and wait, and asks you about it, tell her, "Well, in the interest of time-management, I just figured, that since you are always 45-minutes to an hour late, that I could afford to be 45 minutes or an hour late also, and still be there in time to meet you...that way, I'm not wasting my time sitting and waiting...." (Then grin.)
Hmm...
I kinda like the idea of sending her a bill for wasted time! lol...
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
Since she is just doing it
Since she is just doing it to piss you off, next time you feel you might have to wait, bring something you enjoy doing, a book, knitting, whatever. And when she is late, tell her, 'I'm really glad to have this time to myself to unwind. I really enjoy when you are late because it gives me time to do this.' you can bet she will be on time next time. It seems she only did it because she knew you had an appointment.
Oh... that's good!
I have to remember this one! THANKS!
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
Great idea
I think I'll have to try that the next time the skids "aren't ready" (we pick them up from her house) and I/we have to sit and wait in the car (there are times when they "just started eating" when we were supposed to pick them up. She is often late coming here to pick the skids up but that isn't a big deal as we're home.
I leave...
when she makes me wait. My hubby started this one. BM was ALWAYS late and never once apologized for her inconsiderate behavior. My hubby was tired of hearing me complain, so he told me, don't wait. Do what you have to do and she can find you. She was late picking up SD one evening and we had dinner plans, so we left. She called us and asked where we were. We said you are late yet again, so you can follow us to where we are and pick her up there. She hated that she had to drive and he took the power away from her, but now she knows and she is not usually not late when we tell her we have plans. If she is we do not give her the satisfaction of waiting!!
Should have read more
Okay, I should have read this one too. Leaving is a great idea as well. BM would be pissed that we left the house and she'd have to call to find us. The thing (after a thinking)...dh would get an earful and bm would insist that he drop them off at her house, and he'd probably do it just to not cause more waves. Still might work.