Ok.. I can't stand him.. I dislike him.. I hate him being in my life..

There.. it's out in the wide open..

I'm not going to pretend like it's nothing.. like "oh, we like each other.. we just have difficulties from time to time".. uh, no.. ss12 and I hate each other and its turning into war..

He is outright a dick to me.. plain and simple. Always has been - always will be. We get him on it, but it never changes.. it's who he is.

The one good thing is, now my mother in law got to see it first hand for herself.. she was here this week and oh did she get an eyeful.

She got to see how every day when I come home sk12 won't acknowledge me or say hi.. she even called him out on it yesterday.. her and I were sitting at the table talking and he gets home from school.. walks right by me and she says "aren't you going to say hi?".... now if I wasn't there he would have said hi like he did the day before.. He stops and shifts his eyes around.. and looks at the wall.. then her.. then the wall.. then her and finally says "hi" and laughs.. WTF?

She noticed it right away.. she called him on it and he laughed and denied any wrong doing.. whatever.. little jerk.

So then he just starts being annoying.. making noises, jacking up the dogs and getting them hyper, tossing the football in the air.. then he gets out his remote control helicopter.. (I hate this thing because he constantly wants to fly it in any room the adults are in).. his grandma tells him to take it outside, we are trying to talk.. so he opens the back door and just leaves it open while he is in the deck flying this thing.. We have had SO many discussions about leaving doors open and why it's important to close them behind you - cat gets out, flies get in, dogs run out without their collars on... etc. I say "close the door".. he ignores me. I repeat it and so does grandma.. he ignores it.. then I yell it.. he SLAMS the freaking door! I have had enough, so I go over, open the door and say "you need to do it the right way - close it without slamming it".. he makes a face and mocks me. I wanted to smack the shit out of him. OMG! The blatant disrespect from this kid is disturbing.. I tell him to knock it off.. stop it. He denies doing it and then slowly walks over and makes a big deal about closing the door..

He obviously has a problem with me and grandma sees it.. she tells him "she had every right to ask you to do that over. You did not need to slam the door."

Then later that night... as usual, he is a jackass about bedtime.. since grandma was in town he got to stay up till 9:30, but that wasn't good enough.. He was told repeatedly "9:30, in bed and lights out"..

He goes up to his room... and is screwing around - I can hear him. Grandma said goodnight and went to bed herself and DH was in the shower.. I do a walk through at 9:35ish to make sure the lights are all off and the house is locked up.. sk12's light is still on.. he is the only kid with it still on. I open the door and there his ass is.. screwing around with his toy gun and out of bed.. I say "weren't you supposed to be in bed at 9:30?" He makes shitty faces and mocks me and says "I AM WAITING FOR MY DAD TO TUCK ME IN".. I say, "you were supposed to be in bed at 9:30 - your dad is in the shower and won't be out for another 15 minutes. He will tuck you in then - get in bed." He says "no, I'm waiting for my dad" WTF? I have visions of knocking this kid on his ass.. seriously.. I mean what is it going to take..? I keep my cool though and say "no, you need to get in bed and turn off your light - he will tuck you in after his shower." He tries to argue some more.. of course, but I stand my ground and say "nope - bed" repeatedly until he does it.

I can't stand him..

Then.. as if going to bed after dealing with this bullshit wasn't enough...

This morning.. he is arguing with DH.. about what to wear for picture day. Grandma is in the kitchen trying to talk to sk12 about things and get him to settle down.. as I walk in to refill my coffee he tells her "no" to something and walks off while she says "get in here".. I see him make a shitty face and say "No".. so I intercept him and put my hand on his shoulder and turn him around and tell him "don't you disrespect her - she said get in there"... he then pulls away from me and makes a HUGE ordeal out of this.. telling me "don't touch me.. if you leave a mark on me, you know what will happen.." basically threatening me that he will either call the cops or tell his mom.. I'm like "don't threaten me.. I didn't beat you, I turned your disrespectful butt around"... he replies "you don't touch me" I say "don't walk away from people and be disrespectful and I won't have to touch you - so if you don't do that, I won't need to touch you"... since I got the better of him, he now resorts to being shitty.. "I'll just go to my moms".. and then "you'll go to jail".. I'm like "really? fine with me.. I'll go to jail for making you be respectful? I think not. The cops will laugh at you and probably toss your butt in juvie to teach you a lesson." He then yells at me "just leave - why don't you just leave." I laugh and say "I'm not going anywhere"

Both my MIL and DH heard parts of this.. sk12 tried to twist it and say I told him to "go to his moms".. I'm like "uh-no, I only said fine with me and if he's going to act like that he can go to his moms and act like that because it's not tolerated here.."

What a way to start my Friday... DH called me after I left for work.. we had a long talk and his mom was also part of the conversation.. It's so painfully obvious that this kid hates me.. to the core.. want me gone, but if he can't get rid of me, he's going to make my life as difficult as he can.. in addition to all of his other crap that is just him, he wants to hurt me, wants to make me leave.. and he's only 12.. it scares the shit out of me what he will be pulling 2 or 3 years from now when he's bigger and the hormones kick in.. Little does he know (or maybe he does) that I will not hesitate to get whomever involved that I need to in order to protect myself and keep my home in order.. if he wants a war, by god, he will get one hell of a war and he will lose..