Ok, brief overview of history.

2010 - late May, BM decides to run off to vegas and marry sociopath she met online. Gets back and decided they are taking kids and moving over an hour away from where DH lives and they have had shared custody. DH got attorney and fought it - got custody of 2 boys (I wasn't thrilled but decided to give it a try).

2011 - March. She and sociopath decide to get a 2 bedroom apartment by us. Sociopath also has 2 kids he only sees EOWE and we were like how in the hell are they all going to live in a 2 bedroom apartment?? But thought, oh well.. kids want to spend every other week with BM, so we decided to move forward with shared parenting.. and they can manage 2 days sharing a bedroom or whatever with their step siblings if this is what they really want.

2011 - November. BM tells us they found a house to rent. TWO STREETS OVER from us.. we were like "ugh" but again.. it's about what is best for kids, not us. Shared parenting was going ok. Although we were a bit annoyed that every weekend she had the kids, they would leave all 4 kids home alone till the wee hours of the morning (like 4 or 5am), but we couldn't do anything about this.

Summer - 2012. BM announces her and sociopath are over and he is moving out.. for the next 6 months it is a back and forth "he's there and they are working it out" and "he's gone and we are over" struggle.. at times she would tell us the kids can't come over because she doesn't want them there when he is.. we juggle the schedule around constantly to accommodate her constant changes. It was a mess.

February - 2013. She calls DH and says she is staying with sociopath. "He cheated on her and she never gave him a chance to make things right - wasn't fair to him" blah blah... (bear in mind he cheated before they got married too).. DH flat out tells her he thinks its a mistake and points out all the problems this has caused for their kids, etc. She just doesn't care. It's obvious the only thing that matters is he marriage, not her kids.

March - 2013. BM calls and tells DH she is moving away - again. To the same area she moved to in 2010. She says "kids can live where they want".. DH and I both know what's up, she doesn't want kids and this is her way of getting rid of them while making it look like she is not abandoning them.. making it their choice of where to live and knows they aren't going to leave the community they have lived their whole life. She moves and conveniently loses her job..

Since late May of 2013 she has only paid 800 in child support for two teen boys. Refuses to pay for sports, braces, etc. because she isn't "ordered by the court" to do so. She has messed with their minds and told them lies and twisted things to cause drama here.. the games never end. The boys are a freaking nightmare - especially the younger one (read my blog for that history).

Now.. we get word that she is telling the boys "oh, we are putting the house up for sale and moving up there again" (SS15 slipped up and said something by accident).. She also told the 12 year old she refuses to do shared parenting with DH because it is too "difficult".. by difficult she means; DH wants the kids involved in things like sports and BM would prefer they sit on their asses and play video games and watch TV so she doesn't have to do anything..

I get it now.. everything this woman does is calculated to manipulate. She took a year off parenting and work to "nurture her marriage" - dumped the kids on us but at the same time kept them on the hook.. kept them riled up and pissed off at DH and me because we had rules and accountability in our home. Kept them feeling sorry for her and her "situation" because she missed them "sooo much" (uh-then why the hell did you move so far away??)..

I am so pissed. I am sick of her games. I am sick of her kids and their drama.

I know what she is up to: she doesn't want to pay child support and the only way to do this is to move back up here and do either shared parenting or have them full time. She already told her kid shared parenting wasn't an option. but.. DH and I know that her sociopath husband will not stand for having the boys full time as he hates them and that is part of the reason she moved away both times.

Sooooo.. where does this leave the situation? She told DH last year she would "be eligible for alimony if she stayed with sociopath another 4 months".. We both remember this and were like "WTF?" about that..

She is more than likely going to divorce sociopath and go for alimony... that plus trying to get child support from DH by taking the kids full time nets her a nice little chunk of cash each month and she won't have to work all that much.

I have been able to for the most part predict her moves and I am pretty sure I am right about this one. She of course denied telling the kids she is moving up here when DH asked her about it.. said she is staying in her current area, but of course, I call BS.. why would she talk to the kids about moving and having full custody then? She knows they don't want to live down there and that her hubby would never allow that.

Another element to all of this is that the sociopath has two kids that live even further away from them than we do. And we were told he wanted to move and be closer to them (this was from the same source that told us they were moving to begin with). His kids live about 30 minutes from us.. meaning we are a little over an hour away from BM and her hubby and his kids are about 2 hours away.

None of this makes sense.. the step kids are being dicks and not telling us anything and BM is lying her ass off. I think I have it right with my assumption and this being in limbo is insane. She needs to stop the bullshit.

Honestly, I am done with this. All of it. I want to scream "take the damn kids" because I'm sick of their attitude and the drama.. They hate me and resent me.. do so much to cause problems in this house because of the crap they are fed by her combined with the situation she has tossed them in.

We will never have any peace - every year it's back and forth with her and it's screwing with MY life. I also have a child that I have shared parenting with and I know in a way all this shuffling and crap is bound to start affecting her.. thank GOD she is a good kid with a kind heart and we have awesome communication.

I know it's a lot to dissect.. HELP???!!