STFU about the list ! OMFG
I'm sorry but I just want to scream this ! Every freaking year, every holiday BM has to find a way to bug and or start drama ! That is about the only thing she is consistent on. This year since I guess SD is not getting anywhere on her texting DH wanting to be picked up tomorrow, enter BM. She started sending DH SD15 Christmas list unprovoked. SD had already sent DH her list weeks ago. Normally I have finally gotten to the point where I am not affected by BM or SD but DH is constantly complaining and I ask him what is going on? And he is like it's this damn list ! BM sent it to me and said to let her know what I get from the list . Then BM sent it again today and said "she updated her list, did dhe share it with you?" And DH told her , yes she has shared it with me and BM keeps asking him what he is getting from it so she can cross it off and something about another list ! I'm like don't effing worry BM , SD is getting a damn gift ! I don't know why DH entertains BMs BS sometimes . It's annoy me . I said I don't wanna hear anything about this list ! Every year it's the samThing with this list ! Then she will ask " what is your family
getting from the list ?" Like who cares! Be glad she is getting anything ! Oh lord! At what age do they stop with this list crap ! I don't even do this with my ex! If BS13 sends it to his dad then ok, at the most we many say if and what we are getting from the list so we don't double buy but it's never like a week long event of talking about this list
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To BM: Text me the list
To BM: Text me the list again and she gets NOTHING. Your move.
I'm so over greedy BMs and skids.
Me too! I wish she would put
Me too! I wish she would put in this same effort to actually supporting a relationship for SD and DH. SD has been over maybe 3 times this year and it's shove the Christmas list in the face! I'm sure she will keep it up until Christmas
Two Lists
We are list folks. I like having suggestions. Not orders. We told the kids, if you don't want duplicates make two lists. You know what kind of stuff we'd love to buy you vs other parent. Split your list. No, I'm not telling anyone what I got you. And make sure there's variety of price and theme on that list (if your DH hates makeup and lingerie she better have other options on the list!). She's old enough to communicate her Christmas hopes personally. BM can butt out.
Yes I am the same, any list
Yes I am the same, any list my kiddos make are suggestions. SDs are like a demand and you must get what is on the list . If I send the list to family I always say " here' are some ideas but of course anything else is great!" What BM is saying is here is the list you need to get from this list and I need to know what it is which is not ok with me . I think there does need to be 2 list if she is gonna be this way. One for dad and one for mom. DH just gives SD money so really the list is not needed for him.
My kids also learned long ago
My kids also learned long ago not to duplicate lists or "asks." It really makes the most sense.
Email has deleted button
Deleted the list. If SK can't tell you. Like first show up. They don't get it Then you will think about it.
SD needs to make a list for
SD needs to make a list for mom and a seperate one for Dad. That would solve the issue IMHO.
"Entertain" is the word. Like
"Entertain" is the word. Like Yesterdays said, he needs to stop replying. Or, yes, ask him to stop complaining to you about it. Ick.
Use the list to light the Yule log.
I am not a list person. I don't give a crap about what someone wants or needs. I am about gifting what I want them to have. It is a constant thing for me. When I find the gift that connects with me for that person. I know it.
For damned sure what a third party wants me to get for someone else means less than nothing to me. Regardless of who that 3rd party might be.
DH should do his own thing and go RADIO silent with BM.
That will drive her Nuckin Futz which is a nice gift you and DH can give to yourselves.