I think everyone gets turned off (and not just sexually) by such behaviour.  These kind of "please please love me" messages are also likely to have the opposite effect than the one intended and hoped for, on the recipient.  And when the recipient is an unscrupulous, grasping SKID, she or he is likely to think they have hit the jackpot in the "walking wallet" stakes. 

I get completely nauseated when SO pines after SD who uses and abuses him, with zero reciprocation on her part for his undying affections towards her. Who does that? How does someone keep putting themselves out there only to be used and dismissed over and over again. At what point do these men muster up some self dignity and stop allowing Thier precious princesses to treat them this way. 

It's truly the definition of Insanity, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. I just SMDH. 

DH is putting his mini wife before you.  He is not hoping to change.  You already explain to him how it looks for him to go begging to his DH. Begging like a dog.  Maybe she will send a bone to him.

My husband doesn't pine after SKs or parent out of guilt, but it is irritating when he hauls mention of them into our conversations or activities. For instance, on our mini-honeymoon he kept bringing up how SKs would love this park we visited, or that restaurant. Ugh.

For the record, I find it jarring when he drags our DD into conversations about activities too. Though there's not the same irritation, admittedly. 

My ex didn't bring up his adult kids alot. Likely, because the only time they contacted him was for money and he hadn't seen them in years. He would bring up stuff about his youngest daughter from time to time but I would realize she was just telling him lies and manipulating him for money.  So of course that was a turn off. Or when he would sit there and try to figure out how to get handouts for his adult kids, then of course that was annoying. Or when he would say his daughter said this or his daughter said that as if I really cared. Not sure how he fooled himself into believing she was a know it all when she was old enough to, in some instances, have completed a master's degree but couldn't seem to get past her sophmore year of college. She also couldn't figure out how to live independently, pay her own bills, feed herself etc. so of course nothing he said about her interested me. Heck she couldn't even figure out how to be a respectful and honest person..He even implied that the only reason I could see his adult kids for being the lazy, manipulative, dishonest, selfish crap they were was because I had graduated college and have a career. He definitely didn't like to talk about why they didn't work enough to take care of themselves, regularly call and ask for money, or when I asked why they weren't doing anything to gain a skill or better their financial situation. Or even why as a father he wasn't guiding them towards independence or why as young adults none of them were independent (not even the ones who have kids). I guess that was a turn off for him because he would either get offended, defensive, or quiet. Haha.

It's a completely involuntary thing but yes I am totally turned off and disgusted with DH as a person when he starts talking about SD. It's always some superfluous BS about her imagined talents that just don't jive with reality. He just seems so pathetic because it's nothing but excuses about why she's amazing, like he's trying to convince.me.and himself.

One skid is fine and I enjoy how he and is family are doing, ss33 is annoying AF to hear about because he's either in crisis, "making progress" or "progressing." I have no patience for a grown man who can't get it together and has ping ponged back and forth to mommy's and other relatives homes when he decides to drop out of life.  He's written DH off before only for everything to be all better when he magically shows up needing something again.  I love DH and do support him but can only hear so much about ss33. Yes it's a turnoff! 

Yep! The worst here is that skids will FaceTime after he has fallen asleep and he will answe the call and then pretend he wasn't sleeping and then just keep talking to them....like WTF? How about.....we were sleeping and now I hear the skids yapping beside me on the phone about nothing.....I just go sleep on the couch