DH blindness
If I can posts pictures of the messes SS makes it would piss anyone off to see the laziness and disgusting way this kid is!. But I send DH pictures of his sons mess and tell him that his son doesn't care about his belongings and he needs to pick up after him. Guess what happens?? DH is "mad" at me cause I said "His son doesn't care about his belongings"... Wooooo
This is what I see. Little back story. My fully finished basement got flooded. Therefore had to rip carpet out of the whole basement, cut drywall about two inches up and treat it so mold DOESNT grown. I have a couch that is still good, SS bed on the couch since it didn't get ruined. His dresser down their, and a dining table that wasn't ruined either. I have a majority of our belonging on the table and in the kitchenette area on the table so nothing is on the bare floor.
SS throws his dirty clothes on the floor and even cleans clothes too from rummaging in the drawer looking for clothes. They been on the floor for days!!! I'm not picking that shit up. But neither has SS or DH. Yesterday SS puts his PlayStation together on his dresser with the tv. No big deal, he has a gamer chair he sits on and is on it. Was playing till 3am. Don't care anymore because not my kid. DH goes downstairs to get him so he can go to sleep. No big deal. I amgetting ready, this morning, and need clothes from the table (did laundry and clothes folded on our table down there) I see chip bag sitting on top clothes that were thrown on the floor. Few chip on the floor. Empty Juice pouches on the dresser and on the floor. Ice cream stick on the table and it's a fucking mess. So I took pictures to show him. And guess who DH is mad at? Lololol
Me! Because I said his son doesn't care about his belongings! Not that it a fucking mess downstairs. Then he proceeds to say "his son knows better"! Like OH HE DOES?? (Eye rolls beyond belief)
I straight told him this is your son. You are responsible for this and whether you or him clean it is up to you to decide. But I won't stand for the basement to be trashed like he doesn't care. DH so mad cause I bring to his attention that the prince of the heavens makes a mess and now it's me who "doesn't like him and blah blah blah" get over yourselves and the stupid nonsense. Teach your capable 10 year old to clean up after himself. But don't get mad at me cause he made the mess and I'm mad because NO ONE THOUGHT TO CLEAN IT. I'm not doing it!
His kid will never know or learn responsibility at all. He will always have mommy and daddy to it all for him. I truly can't wait until the day reality slaps this kid in the face and that he has to learn to do things for himself. Or better yet get the disappointment that no one is his maid!
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I am queen of pics of messes.
I am queen of pics of messes. It's my thing for proof lol.
I've struggled with "waiting for someone else to clean their messes"
I'll use this story as an example. We remodeled our upstairs bathroom in the beginning of the year. When my SO does any house work he makes an absolutely disaster of all his tools. Literally everywhere.. kitchen, living room, hallways. Stuff everywhere. So that week I decided to back off some what of my normal everyday house stuff I do.
Well, all 3 skids weren't home at the time. (All at friend's houses) Bathroom is pretty much done at this point (took him a week) and he just looks at me and goes are you going to help me???!!!!!!!! Granted, probably a bad week for me to start backing off because he was working really hard on the bathroom but, I was just like dude it's your mess! I don't know where your tools go!!! He responded with.. you know where the laundry goes. I said yeah I do but so does everyone else. He didn't like that. The skids have very minimal chores to do and he barely will ask for anything extra out of them. We fought for a little etc got over it. One of the things that really drives me crazy and I honestly don't know why is he puts all the boys clothes away for them. SS16 (he will be 17 next week) and SS15 haven't put their clothes away in years now because SO got tired of them "putting them away wrong" Even though it's not me doing it's him cleaning up or whatever for his kids it still drives me insane.
To me, it's not teaching them anything. SS16 is the worse though. He's disgusting. SS15 is good and SD13 isn't too bad but if she bakes something she makes a disaster and will complain when you tell her to do the dishes she made while baking.
The mess stuff never seems to end though. Even after countless conversations.
Oh man.
Well, I feel your pain. I don't ever touch the mans tools nor put them away. Yet, he talks to me and always request I get a tool for him and when I get the wrong one he looks at me as though I'm an idiot! Like dude seriously? You want a certain tool get it yourself.
As far as cleaning, you're right. His mess, pick it up big guy. I'll clean the bathroom but your tools and etc. you do it.
Man oh man, wow. Well neither does SS- dad does EVERYTHING for him. EVERYTHING! I do the laundry but refuse to fold and put them away, just so his dresser can look like a tornado. I laughed when DH was "cleaning his room for him", (yes he cleans his room while SS plays PS4, then yells at SS of why his dresser is a mess. BUT, he still fixes it for him. I laugh harder when DH says "if I see it like this again I'm gonna make you fold it all and put it away" Haha! Because it always continues to look like a mess and DH never makes him fold and put it away- he will continue to sound like broken record YET still does it for him! So I die laughing to myself cause he's the stupid one who still does it. His kid doesn't care. He goes right back to playing his game, as usual!!
At least yours cooks. I give them that, I'm sure they can make a sandwich and poor cereal. SS10, is sooo incapable of doing anything. Although he's so good at saying "I'm hungry?"... I'm like and? Go tell your father, because you won't eat what I cook so tell him to make you something or whatever. DH gets all frustrated cause he "asks" SS what he wants ALL THE TIME. Instead of just making food and him eating it he always has to be givin a choice of what he wants. Then either DH makes it or mostly orders it. SS is labeled as "picky" but he eats so many other things outside this house- he just manipulated DH to "think" he is picky and he can't eat anything other than ramen, pizza or take out. DH always obliges. I gave up. I cook for me, daughter and DH! I no longer ask what will SS eat. I just cook for me and if he doesn't eat, not my issue- DH can handle that. DH gets frustrated all the time but I stopped caring or giving my input. When he tries to vent to me about it, I stop him in his tracks and tell him I don't want to hear it. You created that problem you deal with it. I tried to provide some advice and heaven forbid you try to take it. You deal with your problem on your own. Lolol
I made a PowerPoint
One time with nice transitions and music with all the pictures of the messes and piles around the house.
And you are not alone. Pointing out anything, even if it was meant to be positive or the kids were clearly in the wrong, DH assumed I was out to get the skids.
Screw that. It's about
Screw that. It's about teaching him the their lazy disgusting children or child is a slob! Screw that, I don't care what way he sees it. I am using that as proof so he can see the mess he will be picking up when he get home from work! Don't care if he's tired or not. I pick up my own mess, so does my BD, and even DH (slightly) does too! There is no reason these kids aren't capable of doing anything. Takes literally mins to do those things!
Thank god im not alone either! This is the only place I can seriously relate to. Everyone outside this has there idiotic opinions or just can't utterly understand the position us SP's are in!
My problem is that
DH is Mr 90%. As soon as anything, from a large home project to putting away dishes is 90% done he bails. So there's a lot of 10% piles around and the kids see that so why should they clean up if dad doesn't?
Me, it's not done until everything is put away and it's like it never happened. This week DH is gone and it's just me and DS. Other than his room, he knows to tidy up, so I've already cleaned and tidied up and it will stay that way for seven days!
I hope you put it on Facebook
I hope you put it on Facebook
with a title along the lines of "Samples of decor created by SS". It would be such a shame to waste a file like that lol