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Submitted by SM12 on Thu, 04/30/2020 - 2:47pm

Well here we are winding down another weekly skid visit.   As I sit here typing, YSS is in the next room playing video games.   He just woke up an hour ago.   
DH is at work and calls to check in.   He asks if YSS is up, I explain yes he just got up and that he is playing video games.   
 

Last night DH was asking YSS about some school project.  DH wanted to see it and YSS wasn't having it.  Apparently it is some game or whatever, I wasn't interested nor listening closely. 
 

When DH calls he asks if YSS did his video for his project presentation.  My reply "I have no idea what you are talking about". DH informs me that YSS is to go a video presentation of his project.   Again I explain I have no clue what YSS has done.   DH hinted that he wanted me to check....umm NO!

DH Calls YSS, I can hear his phone ring, and then calls me back.  It seems this video call is to take place at 4 pm.   BM is supposed to swing by and get YSS around 3:45.  I don't see that happening.   And I am working so.... I am not exactly sure how YSS will manage a video call with his teacher explaining a project without help.   I Can see YSS running in my office for help at the last minute.   Sorry dude, should have planned better.   And of course, he is 15 minutes from go time on this call and he is STILL on the video game.  
 

Again NOT MY PROBLEM!

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 04/30/2020 - 3:04pm

This sounds like a day in our house when SS was 13. Only my DH would ream him a new one for not doing his homework. 

Then he'd go to BM and complain about how mean DH is for making him do his homework. 

I too would stay out of it. 

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Submitted by SM12 on Thu, 04/30/2020 - 3:19pm

And here it is past his presentation time and no BM and no video.   He finally got off the video game 10 minutes AFTER his presentation time.   Good Lord!!    
it's amazing how freaking lazy DH and BM have allowed these monsters to be.   And why the hell is BM so late picking YSS up??  I'm ready for my kid free time to start!

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 04/30/2020 - 3:23pm

In our case, BM was never late, and she was the one allowing SS to be lazy about school. DH tried, but he couldn't counteract her permissiveness.

Not to scare you, but my SS is now 20 and hasn't done anything useful with his life since he dropped out of Community College last May.  I predicted that when he was your SS's age. 

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Submitted by SM12 on Thu, 04/30/2020 - 3:47pm

So far I have heard nothing but silence.   No video call took place because I would have heard him taking...and BM is an hour late.   I will be making a point to fix her tardiness with a swiftness.  
 

I have next week off and have plans Thursday morning so I will be getting YSS up bright and early and dropping him off to BM!  
 

 

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Thu, 04/30/2020 - 8:25pm

It will probably be ignored that he didn't do it or excuses made. "Well... he said he did it, maybe you just didn't hear him."

 

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Submitted by tog redux on Fri, 05/01/2020 - 8:04am

OP, I had dreams (nightmares?) all night about SS's days visiting us, the fights over homework, the complaints to BM followed by email manifestos, the stress and frustration ...

Thanks a lot.  Biggrin

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Submitted by SM12 on Fri, 05/01/2020 - 1:17pm

So I wrapped up working around 5pm.   Come Out of my office to find YSS on the video game still.  No BM In sight.  My blood pressure (which was already high) sky rockets.   I count to 100 and try to get a few quick things put away.   AND I shut off the internet hahaha.  About 5:30 I finally go and ask YSS "when is BM picking you up?"

Now I'm sure this made YSS mad.  Don't care.  He was sitting at the video game talking to his buddy on the phone and probably waiting for it to come back up.   I stand and stare at him as he tells me he isn't sure when BM is coming.  He grabs his phone and texts.   She is there within 15 minutes.  I had let the dog out so as I went to bring her back In I hear a car honking repeatedly.   It is BM and MSS.   MSS is driving.  He just now is getting his learner permit and is almost 19.  That is another story.   
BM waves excitedly to which I wave back Like a normal human being.

Yss slinks to the car is a pissy mood and they leave.   It was like a cloud lifted.

And I had a revelation.  It wasn't BM being lazy, although I did find out she is off work right now.  It's YSS.   He wants to be here.  He does what he wants when he wants.  Can stay up all night and sleep all day.  No one asks about homework and he can play video games and not shower.   I would bet money be told BM he didn't want picked up until I forced him to go home.   
My house is not a flop house for smelly lazy teens.   
 

Next week I am off work.  I will be waking YSS up bright and early and take him home personally because I refuse to spend my day off with him.   He will be so mad...don't care.   DH will

be upset too but he won't dare say anything.   He knows I am at my limit and if I want the house to myself...I will make it happen.

And finally, still no clue about the project.