So I touched on my OSD 25 in my last post about her In Laws. While I do feel a bit bad for her... I think she has a hand in her own situation.  She is married to a guy that is a bit of an immature and controlling jerk who has his parents living across the street from them.  His mommy still pays his bills and he hangs out at their house all the time while OSD is home with their 3 yo son.  Now she is 8 mo pregnant with another boy and they are still fighting like cats and dogs.  

So, I get it.. she is in a tough place.  She does work, but her husband makes more money and she would on her own find it tough to live in the same style she has now.. new home.. late model vehicle etc...  He still lives his life as if he is somewhat single... not necessarily cheating (though who knows).. but going to his buddies houses to drink... hanging out with dad in the shop and working on his truck out hunting with the boys.. etc...  She works, at home with a 3 yo and now getting ready to have another... (supposedly her BCP didn't work both times... something to do with her "migraines".. ).

BUT.. I don't think she is completely innocent in that she has the tendency to be a judgemental Biatch to people.  With the latest story from her younger sister.. I am wondering if it is more than a tendency to be a selfish, self centered brat... and possibly more likely to be some narcissism or personality disorder.

YSD 22 is a nice person.. generous to a fault.  She is always the one to volunteer to drive people places.. first to treat her friends to a meal or drink.. or even a vacation (as we found out a few times her friends mooched).  She is a hard worker, has a great job and has her life pretty together (no current boyfriend thank goodness..lol).

So.. YSD is often OSD's target whipping girl.  She puts her down.. gets mad at her.. gossips about her with family etc..  I kind of feel like she does it from jealousy because she wishes she was 22 without the shackles she is wearing now.. and with the great job etc.. (though OSD never put the hard work in).

Well, Today is YSD's birthday.  Apparently her mother and her mother's BF want to take her out this weekend to a Casino/resort near them to celebrate.  YSD called OSD to invite her.  Sure OSD can't drink.. but she could play slots and enjoy a nice meal with them.  There YSD goes again... being nice and extending an invitation.  

Here is the response she gets from OSD.. and this is where I am starting to feel like her issues are more than being a superficial person.  She said.  "Momma and NewGuy don't need to be spending any money on YOU when she has a new grandson getting ready to be born.  She hasn't bought NewBABY ANYTHING yet.  She and daddy (my dh) need to spend their money on their grandsons"

First, OSD has not had a shower.  It's her 2nd.. but still a small shower/sprinkle to get a new outfit or toy for the new baby isn't a total etiquette breach right?

Second... so because you are having another sainted OOPs baby.. the whole world is supposed to revolve aroung you and the baby? No one can have a vacation.. or spend money on anyone else but the baby? ha!

Third.. If you have these entitled expectations.. by all means.. you need to let people know what is expected of them instead of seething in the corner and acting like an ahole.  It would at least give everyone the opportunity to explain that your child is NOT the center of the universe.. and btw.. you aren't either honey.

Ughhh..  OSD was always a hard nut for me to crack.. she was not a warm child.. she wasn't open.  She had opportunity and capabilities that she wasted.  She was entitled.  But, I could have some sympathy for her.. but when she pulls crap like she did with her younger sister.. it really irritates me.  

The more I see.. the more I think she may really have a mental disorder of some sort.. her expectations of what she is owed and the importance of her life to others is way off the charts.