DH and I don't think coparenting will be normal after this mess

I didn't bring SD up all day yesterday and we had a really nice day with our friends. Normally we have SD this week and our friends kept asking about her and we just kept saying that since the 50/50 wasn't official, BM retracts it when she wants and we obviously didn't bring the investigation up.

Anyway, at dinner, DH mentioned SD (she's obviously on his mind) and he said he doesn't think 50/50 will work, especially if (when?) a new custody evaluation goes to court. BM will use everything under the sun to say that it isn't working and be difficult like she always has been. He says it's BM being the CP or him and we all know how courts feel about dads when mom turns on the waterworks every time.

I don't know what's best for SD. I honestly want to enjoy my new baby in peace but I don't think DH deserves to completely destroy a relationship with SD either and we all know that if he gives up, SD will be PAS'd more than ever and by the time she's 18, who knows what kind of person she'll be and if she even wants anything to do with DH.

As a recap to SD's Instagram post about DH possibly being arrested, BM admitted that she told SD this and is obviously eating it all up and adding fuel to the fire. BM didn't care about SD's public "depression" on Instagram either because "all of her friends say they're depressed". Also, DH will fully cooperate in the investigation but will demand that BM be investigated under the same scope and is going to try to retain the lawyer that has helped him out with business matters before. This lawyer gained full custody of his son over a decade ago and said he is familiar with family court.

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All this really sucks

All this really sucks Especially timing wise.

I really hope that it's a speedy investigation and in your DH's favor!

Thank you. I need my sanity

Thank you. I need my sanity back before this baby gets here!

"Also, DH will fully

"Also, DH will fully cooperate in the investigation but will demand that BM be investigated under the same scope "

What do you mean by this comment? BM didn't have anything to do with what occurred in your home.

If your husband feels mom is an unfit parent,he should have called CPS long ago. To demand BM be investigated simply because he is being investigated is nuts. That isca move straight out of the CRAZY BM PLAYBOOK

50/50. I mean Psycho was the

50/50. I mean Psycho was the one that messed up in our last DHR thing. Yet we all got investigated. And the time before when Psycho somehow got bruises on SD9's arms, same thing. DH and his home were investigated even though it was Psycho that had screwed up.

I don't think that it's completely unwarrented for the investigation to happen in both homes. Just gives an accross the board check on welfare.

I don't know that he should necessarily demand it, but the investigation for both parties even though it only happened in one house wouldn't be that far out of the norm.

This is my thought. SD has

This is my thought. SD has expressed "extreme depression" on social media and BM completely dismissed it when DH brought it up. If BM and the counselor were so concerned about SD's well-being, they need to give an explanation as to why this isn't a concern.

BUT, he didnt even speak to

BUT, he didnt even speak to his child about what was posted. Asca matter of fact, he isn't monitoring her activities on social media. The only reason he even knew about the post was because someone saw it and told you about it.

You have no idea if BM spoke to the kid about the post because your husband hasn't said a word to his child.

BM may not be a good parent, but neither is your husband.

He better be careful. He may be the one to fall into the hole he's digging for BM.

Either way, he confronted BM

Either way, he confronted BM and is receiving no cooperation. He hasn't talked to SD but what is there to say? He isn't going to force her to tell him what she said because she'll probably lie anyway. If she was coached to lie about his outburst, why wouldn't she lie about everything else?

Edit: Also, if he calls BM when she's not at work, she doesnt answer the phone. His COed call times are 7-730pm and everytime he calls during those times, it's always no answer. I have plenty of documentation to back that up.

"He hasn't talked to SD but

"He hasn't talked to SD but what is there to say? He isn't going to force her to tell him what she said because she'll probably lie anyway. "

WOW

Do you not see how awful this makes your husband look?

He is a parent. He has an obligation to at least try. Even if the brat lies or refuses to speak (if he had been parenting all along, she wouldn't have the balls to pull that crap)she still should do what any normal parent would do.

So what came of the CPS

So what came of the CPS interview on Saturday? What did they tell DH?

DH hasn't heard anything yet.

DH hasn't heard anything yet. I hope this week because I'm ready to put this to rest. I don't want to speculate anymore.

HE needs to call CPS and ask

HE needs to call CPS and ask to speak with a supervisor. If they don't have a file on him, he needs to let the supervisor know that someone is impersonating their staff. THEN I would talk to CPS about filing a report against BM and send all thr info to the attorney.

Either there is a file and the CPS worker is awful at their job, or BM is orchestrating something where someone is impersonating a CPS worker. Or a CPS worker is using their position to scare DH, which isn't okay either.

You want this handled quickly? Then DH needs to stir the pot and get answers.