BM texting me
"Hi. Are you going to be home around 11? SD was wondering if she could come by and grab her books?"
SD got books for her bday to complete the set she's reading. She obviously forgot to take them to BM's this past week and I assume GBM is going to bring her by. DH has a feeling that BM won't allow him to take SD on Monday for his week. I forwarded this to him but he hasn't responded on what I should do.
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Ewwww... If BM ever got my
Ewwww... If BM ever got my number I think I'd freak... I'm sorry you're dealing with that mess. Also he may be right :(
But for what it's worth, it's super awsome he stood up to her. She would have just kept bullying worse and worse if he hadn't.
She's had it because we
She's had it because we *sometimes* get along. I am thoroughly disgusted by how she treated DH last week. However, DH JUST texted back and said "Wow, what a dumb b*tch. Just be nice."
So? Should I just text SD and tell her she can come by? Normally she'd ask me herself so I don't know why BM texted me instead.
And yes, he said he's sick of BM having all of the control and something to hold over his head.
Edit: I'm making the books available since they were SD's gifts but I will not be involved any further and I told DH any future BM communication will be ignored.
"No, but I forwarded your
"No, but I forwarded your text to DH to follow-up."
Ignore anything after that.
DH told me to "be nice" so I
DH told me to "be nice" so I told her and SD that they'd be in the walkway to pick up. Is this where I block BM?
Edit: my stupid phone won't block her but I just told DH this is the last "nice" I have in me. I told SD and BM where the books will be and I'm done. Satan said "thank you so much".
I would not bother to respond
I would not bother to respond. If your DH says anything about your lack of response? "Me NOT responding is nicer than what I would have said."
Believe me, that went through
Believe me, that went through my mind. BUT I'm an adult and won't keep books that were a gift to SD- as irresponsible as I think she is and as much of a twat as I think BM is. However, I'm sick of her sh*t so I told DH loud and clear that I will never respond to her text messages again.
Hon, I am NOT saying to keep
Hon, I am NOT saying to keep the books. What I meant is that DH should be dealing with BM. Especially since she's a PITA.
You're right but she won't
You're right but she won't say a word to him, I'm sure. She started a sh*t show, now we'll see how he deals with that. SD doesn't start school until the 20th so we'll see how/ if BM responds to DH's communication about picking SD up on Monday..
Then I would make every
Then I would make every response from here on out be "Please contact DH for this" or "Forwarding to DH".
Totally will. Thank goodness
Totally will. Thank goodness I'm transitioning into full-time so I really won't be available for impromptu drop-ins. And when baby comes, well, she's a baby so she'll always be napping lol
Yay!!
Yay!!
Pretend you didn’t see it
Pretend you didn’t see it then block her number.
My phone won't allow me to
My phone won't allow me to block numbers! I'm very annoyed at this.
I might have went so far as
I might have went so far as to politely write and stick on the cover of the book, a "nice" notice to BM
"BM, I think it is best if all communicate be done between the parents. In the future, please, text Dad. He can then answer any request and/or questions. Thanks, have a great day, Dogs" *draws smiley face on stick-it note*
Sure, Dad will have to then text and ask if you are home and ask you to put books out for the swing by. Fuss and bother, but it will get BM/SD out of the habit of directly contacting you. As you may not have been home to put the books out, if Dad wanted her to get them today, he would have had to run home and do it himself, anyway.
It's your day, or at least was your morning, off. Why should you be being bothered by BM/SD? "Nice" ended for you when SD shook her fanny for all to see last week. Which is probably why BM texted and not SD. Would you want to ask favors from your SM after you acted a little sh*t in front of all SM's friends/family and tossed Daddy under the bus? Yeah, no.
I would totally leave a note
I would totally leave a note like that but it is GBM who is bringing SD to get the books. I don't want SD to see any of the drama even though I despise her mother with an instense, burning, fiery passion. I have never encountered such a human being and plan to live in peace for the next 5 years. DH *says* he will not work on BM's vehicles anymore and I hope he only communicates with SD about college and her wedding, etc. after she ages out.
And I think you're totally right about SD being afraid to talk to me. I got onto her last Friday when I dropped her off and told her what happened was NOT acceptable, NEVER to happen again, she WILL apologize to DH and that they're having a talk when he sees her next.
What kind of phone do you
What kind of phone do you have maybe someone here can help?
I love dogs if you cant block her number I would call your cell carrier. Ask them how???
It's great to behave in a gracious adult. You are.but remember, it takes two. SHE should grow up and realize her daughter needs equal time with her dad starting with his right to have daughter this Monday for 1 week.
Does dh have a court order reflecting this Monday week you speak of?
Its an LG Harmony and I think
Its an LG Harmony and I think the model is 2 years old or more. I will definitely call the carrier. Unfortunately, the CO states that DH only has SD Mondays and Tuesdays from 4-6pm (intended for homework during the school year) and every other Sunday from 9-4. It used to be every Sunday but BM kept complaining that SD would come back from our home "moody" and DH kept getting his time cut so he quit fighting. That was about 4 years ago.
However, BM has always allowed sleepovers and SD has been out of town with us for multiple nights so the CO has never really been followed. The 50/50 has only been going on consistently since spring break in March so almost 5 months now.
When DH spoke to BM about her trash talking him to SD last Friday, he told her they need to go back to court to modify to make every other week official and she lost her sh*t. Her rationale is that HE needs to pay her to take care of THEIR daughter even though he's always accepted more responsibility than is court ordered.
He doesn't even care about the money but BM sure does so that she maintains contol and can claim that DH never pays for ANYTHING for SD. It has been this way since I met him 8 years ago and he's finally sick of it and apparently has a kick ass attorney. BUT, when BM finds out he has one, GBM will surely fund one for her, too. At least something will get done this time because they were both pro se before and DH got eaten alive in court.
OH my goshh
OH my goshh
Try to get that 1 week under your belt. Good for court.
Moody...who cares if sd was moody. KIDS In general are moody. Doesnt mean kids dont benifit from being with dad in your home. BM IS AN ASS....sorry. And Granny is part of the problem too. Gosh I know how that feel and looks like.
Here, check this out ILOVEDOGS... "With regard to child custody schedules, in all cases except child abuse the only professional opinion supported by the scientific research and professional literature woud be for shared 50-50percent custody, based on the foundation principle that a chld benefits from a complex relationship with both parents.
taken from a post in part on Dr. Craig Childress: Attachment Based "Parental Alienation (AB-PA) Aug 2018
I am not asserting your sd/bm is taking part in "parental Alienation" but I am saying SD deserves equal shared custody with dad unless ther is document abuse.
I think DH agreed to the time
I think DH agreed to the time cut because he thought agreeing would look like he had SD's "best interest" in mind but nice guys really do finish last and BM never fails to take advantage of that.
That's why I hope he never works on her vehicle again. She can find another mechanic who will charge her 2-4 times as much and be so "independent" as she portrays. Don't you know ONLY SHE knows how to take care of SD?!
I just hope she looks like an ass going into court after almost half a year of 50/50. I did tell DH to not get his hopes up, though, because she always won before. I hope this attorney knows what he's doing and I told DH to just act as if nothing happened and show no hospitality toward BM, just his concern for what SD is repeating back to him.