BM actually acted like an adult!!! *in shock*
Last night SO finally called BM about c/s payments while we have 2 SD (2y & 4y) for the next 2 months. He wanted to wait till last min (we get kids sat) while I thought it would be better to call so they could discuss it and she not get b*tchy about being trapped last min. Well she agreed to let us keep 3 out of the 5 payments that we would be sending her!!! She asked for 2 so she could buy school supplies for skids since they are starting pre-school and headstart.
I'm in complete awe. Last time we asked she demanded every payment while this time she acted like an adult!!! She is also allowing my parents (who are picking up skids to go on out annual cammping trip this weekend) to use her carseats and she NEVER let's us use anything of hers!!!
I'm in awe but kind of waiting for the other shoe to drop... I hope she stays this reasonable but not holding my breath!!!
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Wow, expect her to change her
Wow, expect her to change her mind on that one..!
Id make sure you send her the payments and she gives you the cash back or some other form so you can still have proof as the payments paid. You dont want to actually not pay her and she get pissed for something else and say you never paid those.
Especially because Im pretty sure in most states (I know for sure in ours), even if we have the skid for an extended period of time, we still pay CS every month.
Yep, I agree with the others.
Yep, I agree with the others. If the orders states he is to make 5 payments, he really needs to go ahead & make the 5 payments. All it'd take is her getting pissed one time & she'll be off to the courthouse to file for contempt, & the judge will find him guilty.
Oh I am going to have SO ask
Oh I am going to have SO ask her to put in writing that we keep those c/s payments. We also have her put into writing what days we have skids just for that purpose. I do everything possible to cover our rear ends regarding money and time spent with skids b/c our co is so weird. It states that SO gets kids based on his military leave and BMs agreement, one weekend per month, 2 weeks during summer. We live 8 hrs away and sometimes don't have the $ to travel every month. She does let us have them more than co states so I make sure EVERYTHING is in writing. Save all text msgs, fb msgs, letters, e-mails, etc. Learned that one the hard way!!!
I agree with this. To assume
I agree with this. To assume that having BM write it on paper will hold, over what a judge has already determined needs to happen...a judge is not guaranteed to look favorably on your DH giving BM authority to override his/her order. That's why judges make the orders.
Nothing about our situation
Nothing about our situation was decided by a judge. It was all thru a mediator. Everything also has to be signed by both BM and SO and 2 witnesses. Most of the time she has her lawyer write everything up so as far as I know its 100% legal and acceptable in court...
Ahhh...this may make the
Ahhh...this may make the difference then.
Don't do it! If it goes
Don't do it! If it goes through the courts, you send it to her and have her refund it to you. If it doesn't, then I would pay her with a money order and have her give you cash. These women say one thing one day and then turn it around for their benefit. If she has been unreasonable ever, odds are that this is a way to manipulate him at some point. Watch out.