No break
SS11 lives with us full-time so there's no time away from him and I feel completely dumped on right now. My brother is getting married this weekend and my 9 month old has an ear infection. I don't have time to be dealing with SS and his issues. But work is crazy busy for DH and he can't take time off. So everything falls on me.
SS had a therapy appointment this evening and DH texted me that he can't leave work early like he had hoped, something came up (something always comes up) and I have to take him. Why me? He's not my child. I didn't want him to be here. I hate getting this burden and then having to talk to his therapist. That should be his father's job, not mine.
So I texted DH back that he needs to reschedule if he can't take him.
I'm dreading this weekend because I know SS will ruin it some how. I know I'll spend the whole time wondering where he is and what he's getting into. I want to spend time with my family and celebrate with them - not have them wondering why my SS is so weird and why he does the bizarre things he does.
I'm jealous of all the stepparents that can drop off their skids off with the other parent and get a break from them. I've had it with dealing with him. Why does it have to be my job?
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Why not get a babysitter for
Why not get a babysitter for him on the weekend?
My sister and my cousin
My sister and my cousin usually babysit, but they'll be at the wedding. I'm not sure I can find someone short notice for all day Saturday. But that would be the best solution.
I doubt SS wants to go to the wedding but would it be wrong to not take him?
Not at all. I don't think
Not at all. I don't think children really belong at weddings though. Do you know any high school aged kids that can so it? What about your husband's family?
My husband's family all lives
My husband's family all lives out of town so they aren't an option. I'll have to ask around if there are any high schoolers who might be able to babysit.
My DD (3 1/2) is a flower girl, so she will be going.
I feel your pain. Having
I feel your pain. Having skids full time is very difficult and draining. Even with the best of intentions and an involved biodad a lot falls on the SM. FDH is the custodial parent to 3 kids who are with us full time. BM isn't allowed over night visitation so there's no break. We have to go out of our way to create breaks for a few hours here and there but there really is no escaping the constant presence. I feel like I live in a fishbowl with no privacy and someone always wanting / needing / dirtying / breaking or consuming something. I don't have good advice but wanted you to know that you are not alone and being a custodial SM has it's own challenges.