When I met my boyfriend he had two kids ages 6 months and 3 years, his ex cheated on him and made his life hell. She stole all his belongings and then once I came into the picture all of the sudden she wanted him back desperately even though she would tell anyone who would listen how abusive he was. She started calling nonstop, showing up at his house with the baby and the other child trying to make him feel guilty about being away even though she did it to herself. We would have the kids for the weekend and her thong would somehow wind up in the kids bag of clothes. How disgusting. I think she thought he would see her panties and want her back, I am really unsure.

She started showing up at my place of work all the time, calling me, following me everywhere I felt like she was obsessed with me. She would call and say things to me about how ugly and fat I am and how my boyfriend tells her that! It was so weird. It was all made more difficult because my mother in law would go to her home and say it's for the kids but she also has pics up all over her home of the ex and the kids. She says she won't ask her not to send pics of herself because she is afraid she won't allow her to see them anymore so every christmas every anything for the past ten years I get to sit and look at an 8x10 pic of my man's ex.

We have been together for ten years now, I am no longer the " new girlfriend " and I just feel so much disrespect from my man's family regarding the disrespect shown to me. We also used to have the kids on the weekends, this was okay but difficult as the kids would tell us she was abusing them and were constantly wetting the bed when potty training should have pretty much been over. They were always sent in inappropriate clothing for the weather, and then she would send them with letters demanding money and that we pay for prescriptions for unknown ailments of the children. We had weird people showing up at our house that she would send for some reason, and we were dealing with the courts trying to get custody because of what they were telling us. The girl's ear was burnt one time because the BM straightened her hair when she was three she has 2nd degree burns on her ear because " mommy doesn't like my curly hair" We had a bat taken to our car, we have been verbally and physically assaulted by this woman and due to all of this we no longer see the children and haven't for six years.

The courts have been useless to us because we have no " proof " She has social workers involved in the kid's lives, an ex boyfriend has partial custody and she lives with some guy and somehow through all of this we are the deadbeats who pay $1000 a month. I feel angry and I feel like these kids are growing up with their heads filled with lies about us and now the kids are at an age to be able to call on their own and they won't because they truly believe the lies they have been told. My boyfriend and I now have a child of our own and try our best to live our lives but our daughter knows he has two kids and she always asks if she can meet them. I don't even know where to begin.