good luck. keep us posted.

Indeed, good luck. However, if she is as psycho as she sounds, I wouldn't hold my breath for your email making a lot of difference, and she might take it amiss and get even worse. Following the principle of good fences making for good neighbours, I would be more inclined to have very strong boundaries in place for all your dealings with BM. We never negotiate with her. DH states how he is going to play things, and if she doesn't like it (which has often been the case) she will try to punish him by witholding access.
It only usually lasted a week or two before she is desperate for us to take the SDs again. They are now 17 and 15 so she can't do that any more.

I'd stay out of it.

Your husband needs to fight that battle not you.

Its been 5 years for me and I do not expect anything to change. I really think you are wasteing your breath.

I had one chat with the BM ( which was a big mistake she used our hardship to her greater good) at one time because DH and I had a hard time copeing with bills one year. We could barely keep food on the table and the electricity on and it scared me to death to had the SKids for the summer because we had such a hard time making ends meet.

She did not have no understanding of the situation and the kids were going to come. She had went and cried on the MIL shoulder she wanted the kids here that summer and begged his mother to buy all the food for the kids so they can come down. I would have never pushed the hardship on his mother she was already on SS getting only $800 a month. She had her own bills to pay. I would never asked of it from her. This BM makes $17. + an hr and could not at least keep the kids for one summer so we could get back on our feet. Husband was laid off, I lost my good paying job and had to work as a stocker at nights at a store to keep the house a going and barely food on the table. Kids came down stayed the summer, MIL purchased about $150 worth of food per month for just them and the thanks we get from the BM is another court date two weeks after the kids went back. That was the year we had to travel 3hrs to the court place and we didn't stay at a hotel we slept in the car at a park down the road from the court house.

BITCH!

We had to move and put our home up for sale lived with my family for a while got better jobs now the BM is really pissed because she does not want her children around my family

again BITCH!

Always a continueing new game. I will be so glad when 6 years are up. My DH had already said when the last CS goes out he was writing a letter to the BM to tell her this is the last CS you will be getting please do not ever get back in contact with me the girls will be old enough to visit me on their own

Sayonara BITCH!