Funny how you need to explain yourself on a site you find to be of no benefit.

Weird.

Umm, ok?!

says the same person that called BM out via email saying that she basically needed to get over herself and it was "about the kids" really you are the step parent if it was about the kids your Husband needs to communicate with their mother. like it or not you are not their parent. You can support your husband but that is about it. Yea some of us are negative but it is because we are VENTING on a VENTING site. you didnt like the advise leave.

I think it is all about perspective and how you take it. If you look for the negative, that is usually what you find. If you share kindness and support, you will receive it as well. I don't know your situation, but if you are not finding positive support here - I do hope that you find somewhere/someone to talk to that fits you better.

Your day will follow which ever way your mouth turns.

I used to feel like you but I was wrong. Yes some people are perhaps unreasonably negative but you have to learn to take the good with the bad here and when you learn more about situations you may appreciate why people feel the way they do. If you do not feel this site is helpful then I'm sorry but honestly, is this post really going to get you anywhere?

I have to say though, I agree with people saying not to contact BM as it is between your partner and her. It is good if in your case it has got you somewhere but in most cases it just makes things worse.

ETA: I've read through your blogs and I get the feeling people were genuinely trying to help. They said they don't think it's a good idea, but there's a difference between a differing of opinions and being unsupportive hun. People say what they do to try and prevent you from getting hurt by doing the things they did.

I've learned a ton from here through others situations, through differing advice, through perspective, and through my own life experiences. I have as little communication with BM as possible and it usually consists of me passing a message to SO when he can't be reached, everything else I ignore.
I don't have a relationship with my ex's gf but through very minimal contact and using her as a catalyst to affect change in her household to the benefit of my children some aspects of their difficulties there have changed. I hold nothing against her I see her as a friend of the family influence and person in my kids life. Of course hopefully I don't come off as a crazy BM to her.
I have an expectation of my SO to be dad to his kids and SO to me, and a good influence on my bios. I would probably beyond stressed overwhelmed, and being "mom" to more kids, more lives than I should be if I hadn't found this site at the beginning of my relationship and averted and avoided some of the pitfalls a blended relationship can have.
We balance most of the time, our conflicts are rare, and because of this site we have been able to communicate before there are major problems. I've been able to not have a single pissed off, stressed out, overly emotional fight with my SO because of this site. but I'm betting that with all things in life that may change, and the varying degrees of advice I get here will be very valuable to handle that by taking the advice that works best for me and my family. Not everyone is going to agree with every bit of advice all the time. You take what you need and give what you can.

My situation is pretty mild compared to many on this site. I have to take a break now and then from the site. I still find it very beneficial.

I can't go on 'other' sites because, I don't like my SS6 - therefore I am shunned.

I like SD12.
I don't completely hate BM - although I don't like her much but that was her doing.

I take what I need from the site, I recognize people are here to vent. I am not even usually very pissed and sometimes when I reread a blog of my own - if you don't know the tone its written, it can sound waaaaaay more negative than I was actually feeling.

Its venting, take it or leave it - its valuable to me.

I like this site because sometimes I am super pissed but after I type it all out I feel better. Then I read everyones responses and realize I am not crazy and feel even better! Sometimes I don't like what people have to say but that is their opinion.

I have learned so much from being here and I have been able to stick up for myself and for DD10 in a constructive manner now.
DH is actually seeing what an evil bitch SD15 is because I have chosen to be silent about her and disengage in my own way. I never would have done that without this site and it has opened his eyes!!

I wish I had this site when I was married to my exh because that BM was really crazy!!

At least she was nice enough to just leave instead of hanging around making us all miserable like some pests that won't go away!!
They know who they are }:)

Sounds like someone didnt hear what she wanted to hear. You can bet she's still tolling though. Hi Kitana, hows everything working out for ya?

Let me sum this up: Id rather have one negative day on this site and not feel alone in everything then I would to be with out my peers making me realize I am not f'ing crazy