So after hearing everyone's thoughts I thought ( knew ) I had done the wrong thing. It's funny though because BM has emailed me back, I didn't think she was going to since a few days had passed and she is known for seriously rash decisions. Anyway when I see her name I just tense up, I wish I could control that! I can't feel angry really because what in the hell was I expecting? What she sent back is I suppose her nice way of lying through her teeth about everything. She cannot keep it to the kids and has to drag any mutual person into this mess. So she writes basically we are deadbeats she has never kept us from them ( I don't think she understands when you continually assault someone they don't come over anymore) that we kidnapped them, we stole someone's car even! I had no idea I lived such a crazy life! Anyway, will probably be going through the courts now, or MIL as mediator as she has suddenly shown an interest..Thank God I don't live near her anymore or she would be at my door right now!