Ok, so I have been with my gf for almost two years. We are engaged. I'm not sure a wedding is ever going to happen though.
When I moved in with her, I quickly found out that things were not as they seemed from the other side of the fence. Her then 16yo daughter had a live in bf who was 20. The two of them spent the summer smoking pot in their upstairs bedroom.
Her other daughter, who was 13 at the time, seemed nice enough, but spoiled and just a bit full of herself.
But I didn't bother much with them, and working long hours kept me away from most of it.
After the first year, the older daughter, who by now was 17, got into a HUGE fight with the mother because the younger daughter wore one of her shorts. This escalated, to the point of violence. I stepped in, and immediately became the new target.
Long and short is the older daughter moved out, after saying and doing some of the most horrendous things.
Well, I thought, maybe the younger one can still be saved?

The trouble is, the younger one has been allowed to live pretty much as she wants. At 14 now, she comes and goes as she pleases, coming home at 3:30 in the morning, or sometimes not at all. A couple of weeks ago she decided she was staying out all night (on a Sunday night), and refused to tell her mother where she was.
So the mother and I decide that something has to be done and that this is totally unacceptable. So she was grounded (which meant nothing to her), and her 'toys' were taken away.
I took her laptop away (I had bought it for her), and changed the passwords for the internet access. Netflix was also a casualty.
The mother stopped paying for her cell phone.
So the kid kicks up a fuss, which was to be expected.
The other night, the 14yo daughter comes into our bedroom at 10:15pm and asks if she can walk down to a friends house and go to the corner store with her. The mother asks her why?
The daughter says her friend has to go to the store for her mothers bf and will not go alone.
WTF???? :jawdrop:
My gf says "I'd rather you didn't".
Well that was all the kid needed for an opening.
I left the two to debate it, expecting the mother to quash it.
Five minutes later, I was outside and the daughter comes out of the house and off she goes.
WEARING SHORTS!
So, it's well after 10pm on a school night, the daughter has had all 'privelages taken away for her bad behaviour, and now she is out walking in -2 weather in shorts???

I slept on the couch that night.
The next morning I gave back the laptop, canceled the Netflix, opened up the internet and began the process of disengaging.
Of course, now the mother is pissed with me!