1st off - I'll apologize for this being a bit lenghty.

Yesterday, SD18 walked right passed me, out the front door and didn't say anything about where she was going. My DH and I sat down several weeks ago and disussed the "rules" for our house which was communicated to her. One of the rules was that she would not disrespect me by walking right by me and not saying anything about where she was going.

I tell DH about this incident (he was sleeping because he had got called back into work the night before). Hindsight - I should have said something to her right then and there; but I didn't want to say anything and be condoned by my DH. Anyways, I had to go back to work and then brought it back up to him last night when he came home for supper. We didn't get the chance to talk about it any more since he got called in for another incident.

So today, he had taken the day off so we could go and just have a day together. On our 1 1/2 drive to our destination, I brought up the subject again of the disrespect and the "rule" being broken. We had discussed that when we set these rules that if any one of them were broken, she would need to find somewhere else to live. He asks the famous question "What do you want me to do".....I replyed with, honor what WE had agreed on when we first set these rules and that she needs to go. The storm began - He made me feel horrible for even opeing my mouth. He told me that his day was ruined from that point and turned around and began driving back home.

There was a lot of conversation that ensued (mostly from me). I know that I was making him do something that he didn't want to do - but in the same token, I was holding him responsible for the word that he had given me as his wife. A word that WE both agreed on. He just made me feel absolutly insignificant. Made me feel that he just wanted to sweep this incident under the rug and let it slide.

Am I wrong for holding his feet to the fire?????

And the icing on the cake was when we pulled up to the house, SD18's car was gone. Another one of the rules was to tell my DH where she is going. I asked - Where is she at?. His reply was "I don't know". I didn't ensue anything after that, I knew I was already walking on thin ice.

It just amazes me how much of a Big Bad Daddy Bad Ass front he can put off and that "The rules, are the rules, are the rules". Yet, when the rules are not followed, we don't want to enforce them. So, I ask again - Am I the one in the wrong for standing up for the things that WE as a married couple decided on and making him follow through on his word?

He's all ticked off now and decided to go to work - Happy St. Patty's Day to me!!!!!!!