@Cat8474- The sad thing is- if she's acting that way at 12, imagine in a few years when she's in full blown puberty!!! I do believe kids learn their behaviors from their parents- especially if they see their mom behaving in manipulating and conniving ways- they begin to test it out on their parents- then friends- and then it becomes part of them. My youngest daughter had a girl- friend since she was 12 or 13. I always said this girl was "crazy" and I seen alot of her crazy mothers behaviors in her. Her mother had an overly dependent relationship on her daughter at 13. It was almost a weird Mommy Dearest relationship. This girl had to "take care of mommy"- who used the excuse she had a previous Head injury from a car accident which explained her "crazy" behaviors. This woman placed way too much emotional responsibility on her child- it was just weird. One example- this woman had gallbladder surgery and had to stay in the hospital for a few days...so I told her that her daughter could stay with us. We went to visit her the day after her surgery and she made such a big deal " Oh...I didn't think you cared, it's about time you came to see your mother". For one, she was 13- she had to wait for me to bring her?? Then she was like, I need you to do this, I need you to rub my feet, I need you to take care of me...blah blah blah. I realized then, this woman was nuts!!

Long story short, this young girl at age 13 was already manipulative and a chronic lier. She had a "fakeness" about her that I could't stand- and I NEVER trusted her. Everytime she was with my daughter, they seemed to get into to trouble. But this girl would lie to your face- with that "deer in the headlights" Look- pretending to be innocent. This girl is now in college- and over the years, I have watched her turn into a back stabbing- lying- manipulative woman- who wonders why she can't keep any friendships or boyfriends. She's proven to me over the years- that she cannot be trusted- in any way. My daughter has had several "falling outs" with her- but she always manages to give her another chance. So if your SD is already behaving like this- it will only get worse unless someone calls her out on her behavior- and enforces change.

I am sure you were able to enjoy your day Much better without her around!!!!

BBGF

@Stepaside,

"I loathe adult stepdaughters who believe they are #1, that they are entitled to treat their stepmothers like hell and assume nobody will mind their diva behavior."

I couldn't agree more with this statement!! I am starting to realize that Bio-parents will always put up with this kind of behavior far longer than we will. The "holidays" will be a test of how far these spoiled rotten skids are willing to take their Diva behavior. I just told my BF last night that he deserves respect and if they continue to treat him with Disrespect- he shouldn't go running at their beck and call. He should make them AWARE that HE sees what they are doing- and he doen't approve of their behaviors. I told him to Call them out on it- and Stand up for ME and US- if they SPEW poison about me. I want him to make a point to them NOW- where he Stands and what he's willing to tolerate and NOT tolerate. They are going to use their entitlement behavior in their relationships with other people and find out it doesn't work!!! They think that just because they are "blood" that their daddy should jump and hop and skip for them. I will be much happier over the holidays if I am not FORCED to choke down one ounce of FAKENESS from them- just so they can "get their gifts" and run. I will be 100% content if they decide to BOYCOTT our house this holiday season. Life will be truly Peaceful and I will have pure JOY

BBGF