I am still in disbelief at what transpired on Friday. It was about the bottle of vodka I found in Ss's room. I told my husband as soon as he got home from work and he got very upset. I did not want to be involved in giving out the punishment but I told my Dh to make sure that he gives an appropriate punishment. He is notorious for letting things slide when it comes to Ss. I was going to be present when we talked to him about why he was drinking in the first place.

We waited for Ss to get home from school and after I sent the other kids to the basement to play, we talked to him. I think what shocked us both was that Ss was not even surprised to see the bottle. He just stood there and said "Ok.." My Dh starts getting angry and asks him how he's been getting it. It turns out that all kids need to do these days is hang outside a store and offer 10 dollars for some adult to buy you alcohol. What is wrong with people?

Ss just sat there emotionless, staring at the wall behind us. My Dh asked him why he was doing it and all he said was that it helps him sleep. That sounds like a sign of an alcoholic to me. I could not contain myself and I asked him if he forgot all the talks we had about him mixing alcohol and his meds. He looked at me straight in the eye and said no, he did not forget. He was being very forthcoming and scarily calm. I think it disarmed my Dh completely. He had been ready for a shouting match. He did not expect this reaction from Ss.

We talked to psychiatrist and told him what was going on. He wanted to change the drug combinations as well, so he will be meeting with Ss to talk about and as well as to address the drinking. As for the punishment, my Dh told Ss that he was grounded and no tv,computer and video games. And he had to write an apology note to me and Dh. We are pretty big on apology notes in this family. It sounds like a great punishment except Ss acts like he is grounded all the time anyway.

And today I was taken completely aback when my Dh said he wanted to give Ss the new iphone. Ss already has the Iphone 4. My Dh wants to give Ss's old phone to my daughter. This is my problem. He punishes Ss and within 3 days he wants to give him a gift. And apparently this is not even a Christmas gift. My Dh makes good money and I do not limit him spending it (as long as he has made the contributions to all accounts and bills). But this is so contradictory. I hope Ss's appointment with the psychiatrist goes well.