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Submitted by regmom on Fri, 04/08/2011 - 2:50pm

DH has a facebook acc and his profile says single instead of married. I changed the profile and he asked me abt it and i did not deny it he says he has reasons bt I never get to know the reasons. Am begining to think i embrass him

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Totalybogus's picture

Submitted by Totalybogus on Fri, 04/08/2011 - 2:51pm

The only "reason" I can think of for a married man to indicate that he is single is to fool around.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Fri, 04/08/2011 - 2:58pm

I firmly believe that married people should present themselves as such. He has reasons for trying to appear as available??? I'd insist on knowing what those reasons are. If he can't share them with you, you can be certain they are less than decent.

If you're married, you are. If you're ashamed to admit you are, you likely don't behave as though you are, & therefore shouldn't be.

Don't let this be about you. Don't let him make you feel unsure of you. This is an issue he should be obligated to explain to his wife.

DaizyDuke's picture

Submitted by DaizyDuke on Fri, 04/08/2011 - 2:59pm

If you changed the profile, then you have his password? If he has something to hide, then I don't know why he would give you full access to his account. Why in the world would it embarrass him to be married??

regmom's picture

Submitted by regmom on Sat, 04/09/2011 - 7:37am

I dont have his password. He logged on using my fone and forgot to logout thats how I got intn his account

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Submitted by Auteur on Fri, 04/08/2011 - 3:07pm

Here's one thing though. If you are not big on updating your profile and stick with the "defaults" it will automatically list you as single by default.

This happened to me, I didn't even realize it until GG made a big stink about it and accused me of fooling around on him. Now why in god's green earth would I want another man to sweet talk me for 9-10 mos then turn on me like a VIPER? So done with that program.

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Submitted by Totalybogus on Fri, 04/08/2011 - 3:09pm

But he asked her why she changed it and told her he had his reasons for it to say he was single

regmom's picture

Submitted by regmom on Sat, 04/09/2011 - 12:15pm

Thank you all for your help. I will talk to him and give you an update. You have all been helpful.

regmom's picture

Submitted by regmom on Sat, 04/09/2011 - 4:07pm

I checked his account today, he changed from married to in a relationship. Havent talked to him about it yet but will tomorrow when he has rested.

helena_brass's picture

Submitted by helena_brass on Mon, 04/11/2011 - 12:50pm

That doesn't make any sense. Why would he DOWNGRADE your MARRIAGE?
Hun, I read your other blogs, and it really sounds like you are letting yourself be this guy's doormat. BM owes you money (no way in hell this should ever be allowed). SS is disrespectful to you. DH is incredibly disrespectful to you. You are not included on any conversations about SS's upbringing. Your DH is unemployed and you live without privacy at his parents' house. This piece about his FB status is really not the worst in my opinion. In fact, looking at the history, I'm not surprised. At this point, you really should take this less like a red flag and more like the final straw.

Is this relationship worth it? Do you have the means to leave this man?

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 04/11/2011 - 1:11pm

I agree with this. It is not the biggest issue in your marriage, but it lets you know that there is no question as to where you stand with your husband. I'm sorry, but he has no respect for you or your marriage.

You deserve a man who will CHERISH you & who will honestly respect & love you & be thankful to have you in his life. You deserve a man who WANTS to do for you...someone who has a true desire to help you feel happy. Your husband is selfish. It should bother him to know that what he does upsets you.

I'm speaking from experience, sweetie. Respect yourself & love yourself enough to demand better for yourself. If he isn't willing to give you better, make a new path. You are worth it! Smile

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 04/11/2011 - 1:16pm

Having read your past blogs, your husband SHOULD be embarrassed...but not by you. He should be embarrassed & ashamed for his lack of character. He should be ashamed for taking you for granted & for not giving a second thought to how he makes you feel.

Do not EVER allow him to make you question yourself or your worth. I hope you'll update soon.

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Submitted by lexaprotakemeaway on Mon, 04/11/2011 - 4:09pm

You're better than this. You need to drop the loser like a sack of hot potatos and never look back. Seriously.