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Pregnant with a jealous stepson!

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Submitted by dezm00 on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 9:20am

Ahh! My SS is driving me crazy. He is 6 and has been acting like a baby since he found out we are adding to our family! He is being a little jerk to be honest. He has been asking for a baby brother or sister for months and now that he is getting one he is acting out. I can't imagine what he is going to do when the baby actually arrives! DH doesn't want me stressed out but the SS is doing everything to push my buttons. He won't even listen to DH.

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Submitted by dezm00 on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 9:25am

He is no longer capable of getting ready without help. He is whining and throwing fits- which is new for him. He is letting all of his hygeine go and he knows that is one thing I can't stand. He is doing things that he knows he isn't supposed to do. I get it is normal for a kid to test the limits but he is going way above and beyond and not even trying to hide what he does. Its like he wants to get in trouble. I would say he is craving attention but he knows that if he acts like that, he has to play by himself.

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Submitted by VAStepMom on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 9:26am

You may need to sit him down and tell him how much you love him, and how happy the baby will be to have a big brother like him.

Another good thing to do is involve him in preparing the nursery, buying toys, picking out blankets, outfits, etc... for the baby.

Let him make a picture for the baby that you can frame and put in the baby's room.

It is very natural for him to act out. He is scared and confused..... and since he will be 6 years the senior to this child, if you don't handle this correctly, he could be "nasty" to the baby when it arrives.

INVOLVE HIM IN EVERYTHING.... create excitement with me. And... give him a LOT of attention.

Good Luck.

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Submitted by dezm00 on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 9:30am

We have involved him in everything so far! Its almost like the more we involve him the more he acts out. We have made sure to make him feel special about being a big brother and we have taken him to look at baby stuff. I am actually scared for when the baby comes. What is he going to do?

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Submitted by dezm00 on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 9:33am

He is acting out for a kid who actually wanted a baby sibling! He is doing stuff that he knows drives me crazy. DH had a talk with him about helping out to keep the baby safe and me stress free. Ever since then he is intentionally doing things. For a really sweet boy he is being really vindictive and cruel.

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Submitted by dezm00 on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 9:54am

I am going to have to try and talk to him tonight. The last time he acted out like this towards me was because he wanted to call me Momma but didn't know how to ask. He has a few attachment issues thanks to his BM. She has very little contact with him and he may be thinking I am replacing him with the baby.

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Submitted by SusiQ on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 10:09am

We just added to our family and your SS6 sounds just like our DS3. He's driving me crazy since his little sister arrived 9 weeks ago. My skids are pretty much out of our lives and much older - 16 & 22 so no issues with them but is it possible that it's not a step issue but just a normal sibling issue?
DS is talking back, telling us no constantly, doing things even when we tell him not too. Just the usualy kid stuff but's way worse since DD arrived.