How do you hide your hatred for a stepchild?
Had my first child 19 days ago and I couldn't be more in love with her. Only problem is now I can't even tolerate my SS. He has done nothing but be a rude, mean, manipulative shit and I dont want anything to do with him. Sad part is neither does his BM so he lives with us full time. It's getting really hard not to show my dislike. I have no desire to be around him or have him here.
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well, i don't have a 19 day
well, i don't have a 19 day old baby or ags FULL time.... so a xanax and a cocktail help me get thru the skid days.....
just drown yourself with the new baby and ignore snot nose ss...
I can feel your pain, I've
I can feel your pain, I've the same problems, just that I show my feelings....
How do you hide your hatred
How do you hide your hatred for a stepchild?
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I did not live with him. Didn't hate him, but did not like him either.
I get really busy when we
I get really busy when we have my SS. We have him from 4-8:30 every day, so I cook, go to the gym, grocery store, anything I can do to keep myself busy.
How old is your SS? Since it
How old is your SS? Since it is summer is he home with you all day? That could be very hard especially with a new baby. Plus keep in mind, even if you are ecstatic about the new baby, your hormones are still out of whack and other things can push you over the edge, also factor in lack of sleep and things that normally where just annoying are now more than you can bear.
Is there any way you can talk to DH about what it is about SS behavior that is upsetting you during this time? You should be able to enjoy this time with your new baby and form that bond without SS bring you down and “ruining” it for you.
Is it possible SS is doing this as a way of acting out over the new baby? Feeling abandoned by his mother, and now your focus is on the baby and DH’s too? Is there anyway DH can spend more time with SS now and focus on his behavior? Is there any way to get him to interact positively with the baby so he does not have jealously issues and feels more protective and a proud big brother. It might improve his attitude if he feels closer and important as a big brother.
Also remember that you need to have a break at times too. If SS is home with you all day, it might be the time for Dh to start calling camps and relatives to get him out of the house for a bit.
My SS is 7 and is home with
My SS is 7 and is home with me all day. I have let DH know how I feel but he doesn't take me serious. I have postpartum depression and we went and saw our therapist but DH still thinks its just me being a bitch. We tried from the beginning to include SS in everything with the baby and also make things special for him. It has made no difference. He doesn't listen, won't follow rules and is very manipulative. DH feels bad for him so he is not disciplining him. SS is getting away with everything and knows it. It would be great for DH to spend more time with SS but I also want time with DH. I feel really lonely right now. I have no family in the area and few friends. DH family won't help because they can't stand SS either.
I literally pretend she does
I literally pretend she does not exist. During her last visit, i did not initiate any conversation with her or really even look at her.
Why hide it? When a child is
Why hide it? When a child is old enough to understand the consequences of their hurtful behavior, then why pretend that it should be tolerated?
If a child was a mean, hateful, rude brat at school, other children would hate them. If they grow up and do the same behavior at work, people will hate them.
Why do stepmothers need to turn a blind eye and pretend bad behavior doesn't result in negative consequences?
What is it teaching skids if we continue to let them think that that type of behavior doesn't have consequences?
whatever you do, don't kill
whatever you do, don't kill em, the last thing we need is more bad press.
foist em off on anyone that offers to "help with the baby".
I know how you feel. I have
I know how you feel. I have been trying to find things to do. Like, I save my laundry for the weekends or I cook alot. Something to keep me looking too busy to deal with FSD8. Unfortunatly, my FDH is smart and caught on that I wasn't just dying to spend my whole weekend with the little princess! Oh well, I'm still not changing. Luckily I had a long week at work so I've been complaining to him alot about stress and told him I'm looking forward to relaxing and reading my new book. Hopefully he gets the hint.