So what has happened in the past year? Your Bio says that "SS is generally a sweet little boy" from that to "SS is the devil" makes me wonder what exactly happened here? Did BM abandon him all together? If so, I can see where the boy would have issues. Have your tried counseling? How is he in school?

Sorry that you are going through this with your daughter.

I can relate to this!!! My ss is pure evil. Manipulative, angry, and thinks he is an adult. DH is oblivious to the fact that I am so miserable, despite my repeated attempts at discussing how I feel. We have a 2 yr old son together and I am ready to pack it up. BM is still in ss life, but has no desire to parent. Only gets him because worried that "friends" will realize she sucks as a mother!
I would love to say it gets better, but I have been battling this for over 2 years now! I am just trying to figure out why I won't leave?!?

dezm00, I think you should to a deep breath [inhale slowly, now exhale even slower]. You are so hormonal right now that you will have difficulty tolerating much of anything, including your DH. I've read the subject line of many of your past blogs & you've vented many things during your pregnancy (hormonally imbalanced) & now your newborn is only a 1-month-old (raging hormones trying to balance back to normal). I'm sure it's difficult having your SS live w/ you on a fulltime basis but he moved in prior to your marriage so it's not fair of you to switch on your DH now. I don't think you should [speak into existence] divorce your DH. Take a step back & allow your body (hormones) to return to its pre-pregnancy state. I think you should talk to your DH & honestly let him know your feelings & that you're feeling overwhelmed with his son's behavior & his lack of support. You should let him know that you entertain thoughts of leaving him that [right now, after having your baby] you're having difficulty tolerating his son's behavior & that you need [him] to be more hands on in raising/disciplining his son & in supporting you to do so. I think many women fail to allow their bodies the actual recovery period from giving birth. I mean my baby will be 5-months-old thisFriday & I'm still dealing with the post effects of giving birth. I trust you love your DH otherwise you wouldn't have married him or would you have gotten pregnant by him. I think counseling sessions for you & DH is a great start & I agree that counseling should be set up for yor SS to help him with what may be causing him pain (he is well over due). Ultimately, it would be great if you, DH, stepson could merge counseling sessions. Hold onto your DH & take it easy for a moment to allow yourself to recuperate after delivry of your newborn daughter. Stay strong & don't give up.