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Tried to have a good time, impossible, SD this, SD that....

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Submitted by tofurkey on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 10:25am

This last weekend was a SD weekend. MIL called during the week to say that BM had plans with SD so she wouldn't be out.

Have to admit I was relieved. It was going to be beautiful weather, and we had just gotten a bunch of fishing gear and there were some really good spots out at MIL's house. I was excited we would be able to get a chance to go fishing as well as I wouldn't have to hear whining and screaming and deal with bratty princess behavior the whole day.

So DH and I got out to MIL's house. First thing out of her mouth when we got there: "oh, we thought that since SD6 wasn't going to be out here, you weren't going to be out and wouldn't want to see us." (Really? So now that's the only time we are welcome?) We replied with, don't be silly of course we want to see you or we wouldn't be here! So for the first 10 minutes we were getting everything together, was all MIL and DH's aunt, and brother talking about SD6. "SD6 would have loved to have been here to go fishing, why can't you wait for SD6 to go? SD6 has a pink pole too! , We just had to get SD6 her own tackle box because she wanted her own so badly, Look at all the pics from SD6 when she went, look at this video from when we took SD6 fishing, here, try some fish that SD6 caught, SD6 is just so great she is such a little angel, SD6 only cries a little now when the fish touches her.." blah blah etc etc. I was like omg can we just go fishing already?

So when we were loading things into the vehicle again all of the in-laws went on with the sammmmmmmmme stories. Are you joking? I just heard this shit 3 minutes ago, and last time I checked I don't have the memory capacity of a gold fish. We then had to waste about a half hour looking at all of SD6's different lures in her tackle box. In laws: "Isn't this just the cutest little tackle box? She just had to have it and what SD wants SD gets you know! Look at her pole, awww how precious, just like her!" Gag...

So, the whole time we were out at the pond fishing it was again, SD, SD, SD.... MIL tell me "Oh that's where SD sat last time, she got so many fish, she is such a good fisher! Oh I wish SD was here, Let me take your pic SM so I can show SD next time I see her."

When we got back to MIL's after we were done to get cleaned up before we left, DH's Aunt says: "Oh did you guys see the pic of SD fishing last week? Oh that's right yes you did when you got here." DH's brother says: "I had a good time today, but you should have seen some of the fish that SD was pulling in last time, wow! She's so strong, and she was so perfect." blah blah.

Right as we were leaving MIL's house, she offered to give us a lure she had and wanted to give to us to try next time. She told me to pick a color, I picked purple. MIL: "Oh that's so perfect SM! That's SD's favorite color! That's the one SD picked too! Look Daddy SM picked the same one your daughter did! SD just loves it!" Argghh...

Barf. I thought that maybe having a nice day out there was possible, but apparently it's not. I couldn't even enjoy myself, every two seconds someone was bombarding me with something SD related. Fun times....

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Submitted by starfish on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 10:34am

UGH!!! i know!! sd might as well have been there...... i would have been knocking back that beers so fast.... my mil & sil go way overboard with how "perfect" sd & ss are.... makes me sick :sick: they're 8 & 11 respectively, they should be able to tie their shoes... not really a bragging point mil..

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Submitted by tofurkey on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 10:39am

Exactly. I think it might have actually of been equally painful if she had been there!

They brag about her all the time...She STILL won't go to the bathroom by herself and needs to be escorted, and throws a tantrum if she doesnt. being the realistic person I am, if I were any of them I could be more concerned that she is frighteningly far behind for her age, not the rocket scientist they make her out to be.

They also brag about how perfectly behaved little angel she is. Honestly? There is not one time we go there that she isn't interupting someone, throwing herself on the floor crying, pouting, complaining that she's bored/entitled to more, etc. She still drinks from a sippy cup and sits in a high chair to eat! WTF?

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Submitted by grayskies on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 12:22pm

i cannot wait until this generation of children grow up and get out into the real world, where no-one is going to be blowing smoke up their asses all the time.

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Submitted by tofurkey on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 12:54pm

I know, right? I'm actually pretty scared for this generation to "grow up" and start making "adult" decisions. EEK!

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Submitted by starfish on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 1:30pm

i thought they gew up and murdered their parents/grand parents to live off the money, but get caught and claim child abuse??

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 10:38am

Just my opinion but, fishing with your in-laws? Ewww! That sounds like a whole hell of a lot of torture on top of all the gloating about the prodigal child. UGH!!

There has to be a better way to spend your time.

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Submitted by tofurkey on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 10:41am

Yeah lol deff not my idea. But, DH wanted to see his mother and brother and aunt, so I agreed.

I seriously tried to have a good time, they just made it impossible.

Then he wondered why on the ride home I looked like i had just been through WWIII

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Submitted by starfish on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 10:47am

it is very funny how inlaws overlook all the skids short comings and brag about shit that is not even brag worthy...

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Submitted by lisa510 on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 1:50pm

You know what?! I'm tired of all the bullshit! My parents were divorced and my mother didn't put up with any crap. I had to clean my room, do my homework, babysit my brother, cook dinner (after 13 y/o), and I had a job by the time I was 14 y/o.

I couldn't gripe and whine about how my daddy didn't love me. My mother didn't let us become victims of her divorce. I went to school, I joined the military, and I reconciled with my father on my own. And his wife (my stepmother) and I get along just fine.

We didn't get everything we wanted and we appreciated things in life. Simple things. These days, if a kid doesn't have a cell phone, everybody says, "Oh my God. What if something happens to him?" What the hell? I had to ride the NYC subway when I 14 without a cell phone. Hmmmm....yet here I am. How the hell did that happen?

Some of us, not all of us, are raising self righteous individuals. I don't know how these kids make it. I try really hard to teach my bio kids tough lessons. "Oh, you didn't save money for gas to go skateboarding? That sucks!" "Oh, you came in after curfew, give me my cell phone you use. You can have it back after a week." "Oh you don't want to take the trash out? That's okay give me the keys to my truck I let you drive."

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Submitted by tofurkey on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 2:13pm

Exactly lisa! My dad died when I was three. Although I have a wonderful mother and had a great childhood because of her, she didn't let THAT get in the way of raising me and my sibling the CORRECT way.

We had chores, responsibilities, consequences for any poor behavior. She didn't sit there and feel sorry for us to the extent that we could run wild and do whatever the hell we wanted. I learned to respect and look up to my mother for being such a strong role model. I myself learned that not everything is handed to you and you have to work hard to get what you want. I too had a job at 14. I didn't get every brand new toy that had just come out. If I asked for something, she took it into consideration but it wasn't a GUARANTEE. I was thankful for what I had but i did not feel like i was entitled or expect it.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 2:03pm

See I'm so different I would have said yeah you said that already. and I know you said that already, really thanks for letting me know again. To EVERY TIME they said sd that and sd this!! LOL I'm mean like that

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Submitted by tofurkey on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 2:10pm

In a recent post or blog or something a wrote about MIL and how you haveto tread very light around her.She has health problems and uses them as an excuse - because if you say something that upsets her or if she thinks she has done something to upset someone else she says she has heart palpatations. No one wants to call her bluff and be the first to give her a heart attack.

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 09/16/2010 - 2:40pm

Some people can't deal with real life issues so all they ever talk about is cutesy bubble gum crap for them all of time.

Usually I find when there are significant behavioral issues with a kid the discussion is much heavier on the cutesy bubble gum content than on true issues or real accomplishments.

We just returned from a visit to the homeland of my ILs and the SpermClan. While there we visited with my SIL, her husband and child. They have taken in a roomate who is baby mama #3 for SIL's husband's best friend's 4 out of wedlock spawn. The discussion was all about how incredible this pregnant unmarried individual who was booted from the US Army is. How smart she is, etc....

My 18yo son (SS) finally had enough and called bullshit on how wonderful she is.

We had suffered through a couple of hours of stories from this person and her mother on how she was asked by her HS science teacher to attend college engineering courses and how she was teaching college age students engineering, blah, blah, blah and went in to the Army because she wanted a challenge.

My son finally had enough and asked her "if you are so intelligent why did you enlist in the Army instead of getting an ROTC scholarship or going to Westpoint? You can't possibly be as intelligent as you claim you are since you are 9mos pregnant and walking out side every 15mins for a CIGARETTE!!!!! Don't you know that smoking while pregnant causes fetal smoking syndrome?

The genious responded "you are not a Doctor, the baby is done developing so smoking won't hurt it". My son responded "I am not a Doctor but I know enough to realize that it is never safe for the baby for a mother to smoke while pregnant. I am not a doctor but I did do my HS senior project on Fetal Smoking Syndrome and my informational flyer was published by the state health department and distributed in all of the high schools in the state".

SIL made a comment that our son should not speak to adults that way....... I told SIL that a 23yo single pregnant Army reject is less of an adult than an 18yo with a decent head on his shoulders. My SIL is currently not talking to her nephew (my SS) or I.

The cutesy bubble gum discussions can go on for a lifetime in some families. My ILs are one of those families since there is little true accomplishment for them to talk about and they do not understand what my wife has accomplished.

I prefer reality and addressing real issues and recouting real accomplishments to trivial bubble gum crap.

Just my thoughts of course.

Best regards,