She sits at home and thinks of things to complain about...
SS is having issues with his little man part 
He has been to urgent care twice, and BM set an appt with his regular Dr but it isn't until July 15th. That is just too far away, and we would really like for him to see a specialist. That requires a referral from either his regualr Dr or an urgent care Dr. So, on Saturday he was complaining about it again. DH and I decide we just can't wait until July 15th, and take him in to urgent care to see if the Dr will send the referral in on a rush so we don't have to wait until July 15th. When it is bothering him, he can barely walk. Dr does so, and says "keep him out of the pool for a few days as well, and see if that helps". OK, no big deal.
So, I drop SS of to BM monday morning. Tell her what went on, and to keep him out of water for a few days. I could tell she was irritated that we didn't call her when we took him to urgent care. Which really wasn't an urgent care visit, it was an attempt to get a referral sent in sooner. Which WORKED. They were calling us Tuesday at the latest to make the appt. I wasn't sure who's number they would call since both DH's and BM's are on file. Turned out they called DH. He was busy working so he let it go to VM and asked me to call them back and schedule the appt. yesterday. I did so, and the first available appt was not until Aug 2. I told the gal that was just too far away, and she told me that she had to get permission from the Dr to squeeze him in sooner, and she would set that appt, and call us back if something could be done to get him in sooner. GREAT!
So I told DH this, he was on a conference call and knew BM wanted to know right away and asked me to send BM the info. This was at 9am yesterday morning. I sent her the same info I sent DH, she seemed fine with it.
HOURS later she decides she doesn't like this. She texts DH "is the appt on Aug 2nd a CONSULT?"...
A consult? He isn't getting a damn boobjob, it is a Dr's appt. The specialist will look at him and tell us what needs to be done, just like any other Dr appt. DUH. A CONSULT... stupid ass.
DH responds "that is not going to be his appt. they are trying to move it up, I will let you know asap when it is moved up to she had to get permission from the Dr to squeeze him in".
BM proceeded to GO OFF on DH via text message. Asking why Miss knows so much about what is going on with HER son, and why she is being left in the dark. And why didn't we tell her we took him to urgent care on Saturday BLAH BLAH BLAH...
I swear, she must have just been sitting there letting things fester all morning, and then exploded 5 hours later. She is freakin CRAZY.
I can see being irritated about not telling her we took him to Urgent Care BUT, it was a 5 minute visit (literally, we were in and out of there in 5 minutes) and it wasn't "urgent" it was a back handed way to get his appt moved up. And I told her as soon as I saw her. She is just pissed that DH relies on ME to take care of things for him, and not HER. But I am his WIFE. That is just how it works in our house.
And BTW his appt with the specialist is TOMORROW MORNING. She should be thanking me for being so smart and getting him in faster. JERK.
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Curious, but why didn't you
Curious, but why didn't you discuss it with her before taking him, or at least tell her how it would result in a referral and not having to wait?
Seems like it all could've been avoided with a little communication.
It probably could have been.
It probably could have been. BUT, it was really a "lets swing in there real quick and see if this works" type of thing. We were going that way anyways to see our friend who just had a baby, right up the hall. She knew that DH was going to call the Dr on Monday to try to get him in to his regular Dr sooner, then we would have to wait for THAT referal to go through. Just made sense to try it out real quick. They had been communicating about doing whatever they could to get him in sooner. It was like an idea that hit us while we were passing by Urgent care, so we stopped. and it happened to work. And I explained that to her.
I get what you are saying. I guess you really had to be there in the moment to understand how quick of a decision it was. And calling BM opens the flood gates for a million calls and texts from her. Seriously coocoo.
I get it.... Sometimes things
I get it.... Sometimes things on the spur of the moment happen, no big deal...well, at least to us.
So she feels that she's being left out? Well, I suppose you could keep a log of all his daily going ons and give it to her. That'll wear her out! Some people just like the control....
My sister kept my son for me for a week when he was little. Very little, like 15mos I think. Anyway, this was the first time he'd ever been left with ANYONE, and it was for a whole week AND in another state. I was a nervous wreck! I called so much, I know I irritated the crap outta her.... Anyway, she kept a journal for me. It was a sweet way to tell me to stop worrying! I got the hint.
I will add this. I don't know what your SSs problem is with his willy, BUT my son had some serious issues last year around Christmas. he was near death. He developed a staph infection in his kidney of unknown origin. They still have NO idea how it got there or how to prevent it in the future. Those types of infections are nothing to mess with, get him to a urologist ASAP. Also, insist on an ultrasound or CT scan if you end up in the ER. If I hadn't of insisted on the CT scan with my son, he'd likely not be here today.
Well... we have had 50/50
Well... we have had 50/50 custody since SS was 1 year old. So I don't think it is that she isn't used to him NOT being with her 24/7. She just has an issue with me lately. When I am "doing favors for her" (i.e.- when she didn't have a car, I picked her up and took her and SS to the Dr...things like that) she is fine with me setting appts and whatnot for SS. She is mad right now for whatever reason. So anything I do is wrong. Whatever to that!