does your sc know
My sd6 keeps saying how her BM fusses about how much she costs. She also told her she isnt having any more children because kids cost to much. Should i tell SD that her dad pays for her things. Probably not I don't think she would understand. Her whole family has absolutely no concept of how much things cost. Maybe its because DH pays child support day care health insurace dancing and all dr. bills........ Wish someone paid all my bills.
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I think six is too young to
I think six is too young to understand all that, the CS concept, etc...
I would let this one go, at least for now.
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Haha, I have the opposite of
Haha, I have the opposite of your problem and I'll trade you!
BM is always telling us (not Scooty, SD5) how she's always broke, so she can't even afford the 1 child she has! But she is always telling Scooty how she needs to find a husband so she can have another baby. Now Scooty thinks the ONLY reason you get married is so that you can have a baby. Um, no...not really!
But I agree with TheWife, 6 is a little too young to understand. Scooty is 5 and I just let things go for now b/c she won't "get it".
"Live well, Love much, Laugh often."
That is really sad. A
That is really sad.
A person should get married because they love someone, not because they NEED them to provide for them. I feel so lucky that I found someone who was head over heals over me. And that he treats me like his princess. He didnt have anything to gain by being with me, and that is how I knew he loved me.
Can't believe her mother is
Can't believe her mother is telling her she's too expensive and she doesn't want any more like her. If that's how she talks to her at six, how's she going to treat her when she's 16?
If she brings it up again, don't tell her what her dad pays for, just say, "Oh, I don't think so. I think you're priceless."
Blueberry's Baby
My DH's ex didn't think
My DH's ex didn't think telling her 4-5yr old to ask daddy for money for x, y or z was too young...but it's too young for us to tell them something back? I don't agree. How many parents tell their kids, no, can't do X because we have no money? Or you'll have to wait because we have to pay house, blah, blah, etc...so we can't go on vacation...but oh no, once again, skids are exempt from an smom or biodad telling them they pay for them?
Telling a child that you pay
Telling a child that you pay $x, $y, $z for them...or that they cost too much is like telling a child that they are the root of your money issues. Too much guilt for a kid. Not cool. Mom telling kid to ask daddy for "x, y, z" is not cool either! You don't want children thinking that you'd be better off if you never had them.
"we dont have enough for a vacation this year" or "the mortgage is due so you'll have to wait" is something different and doesn't leave the kid thinking that he or she is the problem.
Jen
i would say "yes she is
i would say "yes she is right! you don't have to tell us we know kids are expensive. We send your mom $xxx to pay for all of your expenses."