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Submitted by trahzum21 on Fri, 03/18/2011 - 8:04pm

My sd7 has recently informed her councilor bm and dad that she doesn't want to come to my house because she's scared of me. She thinks I'm going to hit her and yell at her. Now I may be hard on the child I mean I do make her pick up her dirty clothes but hit her umm no. I find it very strange that she thinks I will hit her when it was her BM,s husband who beat up her BM. He had to go away maybe it's a masterplan to get hid of me. Her stupid f***ing BM is prolly loving it. I bend over backwards for this kid making her snacks and bringing her to dancing. I'd like to punch my hobby for doing this to me;(

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Submitted by mommy_of_4 on Sat, 03/19/2011 - 5:23am

When I first got here my youngest SD was only 7. I feel for you. I look back and am really surprised that his Skids didn't try something like that. BM always made her feelings for me completely known to those girls. BM completely hated me, and I know that part of the reason SD, then 7 would be so awful. She felt a certain obligation to BM. I wish I could offer you some helpful advice but I really don't know what I would do. I wish you all the luck!

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Sat, 03/19/2011 - 12:15pm

Oh my...I wish I could say it gets better, but at least for me that's how it all started. Crazy witch's husband would beat SD and eventually she told my DH and everyone she was scared of me...of course, after DH questioned BM because he had to pull his daughter out of our car while she screamed she was afraid of the witch's husband because he hit her...it was all downhill from there. Of course, DH would then start questioning me! So i said "no problem, I will NEVER take her alone w/me anywhere or watch her not even 5 minutes for you, and if she is here, you can't even have a beer!" he didn't like it, but went along with it...she still spewed her lies for years after that....funny one day after 3 yrs SD asked DH if she could move in w/us! When he told me/asked me i said "but i thought i was mean and horrible?!?" he claims he said the same to SD and she said nothing. Needless to say DH told witch and the BS stopped for a while...I would have never agreed unless DH was w/her every minute she was w/us! Actually, I told DH "no moré my family keeping her at all...not even at a bday party"...he hated it, but understood I would not put my family in the middle of their bs...

Good luck! Take the bull by the horns now!