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Submitted by trahzum21 on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 10:57am

Ever since i can remember i didnt have a desire to be married. I met him and he wass wonderful and on the 3rd date he says he has a kid. Wow i knew he was married before but i never thought it would matter. I met my SD at age four i never thought i would dislike her. Shes kinda cute at four. I never like kids but she was ok. WOW how things have changed. I never thought i would be the person to feel so much dislike for another women and resentment for a child but the BM is a waste of space. Although she drives a 35000 she says she cant pay for gas to bring the SD to the dr. She also has a second income from her fiance. I have been married for 2 months and i dont think it will ever get better. Ohh i cant stand the ex and i really cant stand the fact that it makes me so angry. I never thought i would be in this position. I am just glad to know im not the only one because outsiders say, Like you dont already know!!!!!!!! She will always be a part of your life. Thanks people like i didnt already think of that.

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Submitted by stepmomto3 on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 11:00am

Welcome to ST trahzum!!! I'm 23 and have 3 skids and 2 crazy BMs.... I hear ya girl!!

ST is a great place to vent and to know that you are not alone in your struggle!!!

(((HUGS)))

***I love you like a fat kid loves cake***

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Submitted by stepmomto3 on Mon, 02/08/2010 - 9:44am

I feel for myself!!! LOL!

***I love you like a fat kid loves cake***

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Submitted by October8 on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 11:45am

The best thing is to set boundaries from the begining.... if not, it only gets more miserable ((hugs))

One can only hope!

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Submitted by Coldandloved on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 12:02pm

Best thing you can do is keep coming here to vent and make sure you have DH's support, that he understands the two of you are a priority and a team, and that BM will certainly need more boundries that accomodate you now. It will smooth out eventually.

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Submitted by Coldandloved on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 12:02pm

Best thing you can do is keep coming here to vent and make sure you have DH's support, that he understands the two of you are a priority and a team, and that BM will certainly need more boundries that accomodate you now. It will smooth out eventually.

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Submitted by txstepmom32 on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 2:08pm

I feel the same way... resentment, resentment, resentment. And it's not easily fixed either. You can't just make those feelings go away. The thing is DH contributes to these feelings of resentment by the things he does and says. Honey, I was in my relationship, emotionally vested, for about 5 months before my DH told me he had a vasectomy. WTF???!!! We are both in our 30's and knew what we wanted, so why didn't he share that one with me? His excuse... I just wanted to make sure you wouldn't leave me because of it, it can be reversed. I just want to give up!!!