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Submitted by Mantra_Momma on Fri, 01/29/2010 - 8:07pm

I had to take my baby girl to emergency tonight because she was running a high fever. I called her doctor and he said to take her to the hospital. Everything is okay. The doctor said to give her some tylenol and lots of fluids. Hopefully she will sleep through the night as usual so she feels a bit better in the morning.

I called DH to tell him what was going on and he said he'd meet me at the hospital. Once he finally got there he asks if I had a chance to eat dinner. I said that I wasn't hungry, plus I wasn't worried about that at the moment as I sat with my baby girl in emergency. Even though he said he ate all day, DH says he's starving and he goes to the lobby to get a slice of pizza. Is it just me, or wouldn't you be a little put off if DH was more worried about being so hungry that he couldn't wait with baby girl and I in the waiting area. Of course 5 minutes after he left we got called in. It was just a bit too reminiscent of when baby girl was born and DH was hardly at the hospital with us.

DH also tells me later that he has to work tomorrow. SD is at his mom's house tonight and DH wants me to pick her up at 12 tomorrow. My last yoga class for a challenge I've been doing is tomorrow morning, so I guess I can't go now since DH won't be home to watch baby girl. I guess that's okay, I might not have wanted to leave her anyway depending on how her night goes.

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Submitted by Wicked.Step.Monster on Fri, 01/29/2010 - 8:36pm

Ack.... this reminds me of a few years back we had to take perfectson in for an emergency surgery...... he HAD to go eat and leave me pacing the floors during surgery. I told him I hoped he choked. :evil: I was furious at him. But I truly believe sometimes men are just weird (possibly dumb) about things like this.

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Submitted by Nymh on Fri, 01/29/2010 - 9:30pm

It may have been a convenient excuse for him to escape the stress of the situation at the time. Is he an escapist in general? Does he tend to isolate himself or walk away from stressful situations and confrontations often?

I told BF that if he wasn't at the hospital when we have our children he had better have a really good excuse (like death) or he wouldn't be welcome when we get back home. I have never needed him more than the days I had my babies. Not saying that you should have done this or that this is the way it should be, but for ME, I couldn't handle him not being there.

I think for me it would be less about him not being there for our daughter, and more about him not being there for ME.

My thoughts are going to you... There are a lot of things that I can be patient with and overlook, but not being present when I need him is not one of those things.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

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Submitted by stepmom2one on Sat, 01/30/2010 - 1:56pm

Hardly at the hospital? That is not ok....I couldn't get my H to leave to eat---we got there at 8am and he didn't eat till the next day since the baby was born at night.

My BILs sister--her H left the hospital a lot too, their divorce will be final soon. It was a glimpse of him in the future...never there or seeming to care about anything.

I hope that he is there for the both you more in the future.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Sat, 01/30/2010 - 2:21pm

I learned the hard way, to eat before you visit anyone in the hospital like that.

When my mom was hospitalized for her alzheimers, they wouldn't allow us to leave her alone or with the staff for 5 min. to eat, and no one else in my family would come because it was 'too painful' - so I had to sit there with her for about 20 hours, starving to death.

Maybe he was settling in for a long haul? just a thought. I do try to tell people this now, in case they get stuck there in a crisis situation . . .

p.s. hope baby feels better Smile
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