Last night DH kept asking me if something was wrong. It was a small thing so I hadn't said much when it happened but since he kept asking I finally told him that it bothered me no one bothered to ask my opinion about what's happening with SD7 today since she has the day off school. When I asked last night if any plans had been made or what was going on, DH said he talked to his mom and everyone was just going to wake up on their own time before I took SD7 over there. That would be fine except I had already planned to go to a class at the gym for 9:30 and booked a spot for baby girl in the daycare. So I told DH this and he called his mom to say I'd be there with SD7 at 9:00.

Fine, right? Apparently not because when he came to bed DH kept asking what was wrong. When I told him that it bothered me plans had been made that affected me with no one even asking me about it, he got so upset and completely went off about how he's trying to do everything he can to make me happy but it never works. His mom is giving him crap because she wants to know why I never want SD7 around. I don't know why DH doesn't just tell her all the crap SD7 has been pulling over the last couple years. I told DH part of the reason I don't want SD7 around is because she doesn't want to be here. When she's home and DH isn't, she just stays in the basement playing and barely talks to me. Of course the first thing DH asks is if I ever talk to her or ask her to play a game or anything like that.

I am so tired of being treated like sh!t by SD7 and I'm the one who has to continue making an effort to make things better with her. What about all the ignoring day after day? How about the fact that I gave up the majority of my maternity leave with my first baby to take SD7 to school everyday and pick her up and I spent all summer thinking of ways to entertain her and make her happy without so much as a thank you. And after watching DH do nothing about it yet insist he loves me so much and I'm the priority and he's not defending SD7's horrible behavior, he still wants me to forget all that and be the only one making an effort to make things better. Before when I would do everything I could think of to make my relationship with SD7 better it got thrown back in my face because SD7 acted just as bad with me.

In his heart of hearts, I could see that DH has made his decision. No matter what SD7 does or how she treats people, DH will do nothing about it and expect everyone else to change to appease her. It's been that way all along, I guess it's not going to change.