After years of no mothers day acknowledmeng from the step kids. No thank yous, etc...I get an email from my step daughter asking why I didn't want to do something for them. And what it was was that I did not want to drive my step son to his physical therapy appointment for an injury he did on purpose for attention, sympathy and to get out of footbal practice, well that swift move got him out of the whole season and maybe permanent damage to his shoulder...but he has never treated me with respect and never been made to so I was like why should I keep doing this for him, his parent should. Also after years of BM and DH telling me to butt out it was none of my business they weren't my kids, why should I be at theri bekon call when its inconvenient for them to drive thier son to his appointment...SO I TOLD HER How I felt. How for years I have not felt acknowledge by them as a mother fiugre. I dont get to be called mom when they call thier abusive step dad, DAD..that kind of hurt. Even though I knew it was becasue BM forbid them from calling me mom, they still could have done it at our house without her knowing, at least as an example for my kids who sometiems call me ERIN, my name because thats what thier older siblings call me instead of mom. I told her that for the last 10 years I have offeredn opinions, concerns, parenting suggestions, etc.. to help them grow to be better kids and get through some problmes they have had and still have and been told to BUTT OUT by practically everyone. I have been told over and over by SS "you are not my mom I don't have to listen to you"...I have planned family activites to have them sabbotaged by SS or BM...and my SD...said " FUCK WHAT EVERYONE ELSE SAYS, WE WANT YOU TO BE A MOTHER TO US BECAUSE YOU ARE AN AWESOME MOM TO YOU BOYS AND WE WANT THAT, SOMETIMES WE NEED THAT BECAUSE WHAT YOU SAY MAKES SENSE WHEN WHAT OUR OTHER PARENTS SAY DOESN'T, SOMETIMES WE THINK YOU ARE THE BETTER PARENT AND IT MAKES US MAD THAT YOU DONT ACT ON IT. SO FUCK WHAT EVERYONE ELSES SAYS AND FEEL FREE TO BE OUR MOM" ...I was like wow. I felt so valued by her at that moment, it really means a lot. I also feel kind of like an ass for letting people tell me to butt out and shutting down my feelinds towards the skids because of it but now that I know they want me to be a parent.. GOD DAMN IT I WILL