Just venting about cake!
Dh's birthday was Thursday!! He has birthday cake in the frig that is just waiting to be cut! I ask DH Friday morning when are you going to cut your cake? He says "Oh I'm waiting on my sons to come and cut it with me. They will be here after school." Well Friday comes and goes and the boys never show up. Saturday rolls around and he says that the boys will be over to cut the cake with him after football. Well again they are a no show. Sunday afternoon I go in the refrigerator and see "the cake" still sitting there uncut.
I say "Honey when are you gonna cut this cake?" He says "Oh the boys will be over tonight after they eat dinner with their mom and we will cut it then." I shrug and think to myself they are not coming. 
Yesterday(Monday) I get home and look in the frig and see "the cake" still uncut! :O
I say "Honey the boys didn't come over and cut this cake?" DH says "no, but they will be over after football practice. They should be here by 5:45!"
I'm sitting on the couch with DH and he is watching the door and looking out the window. The time ticks to 6:00 and finally the door opens. He springs up and it's his best friend. The best friend sees the cake on the counter and the plastic plates. And asks about "the cake". DH explains that he is waiting for his sons to come by and cut it with him. Best friend leaves and it is now 6:30 pm. The cake is still on the counter and the boys have not shown up to cut this damn cake! :jawdrop:
I decide to put the cake in the refrigerator at seven. DH is sitting in his lazy boy chair looking sad and staring blindly out the window.
Why can't these boys just come over and cut this damn cake? Jesus Christ they live ten minutes away there is no excuse! Now when I get home from work today we're going to have to go through this cake thing AGAIN! Jeez!
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That is so sad, picturing a
That is so sad, picturing a dad sitting around waiting for his own flesh and blood to come over, saving a cake for them.
I hope they come tonight.
Thanks CeeCee
Truly sad sad case. These boys are sooo selfish! He was texting them asking them "are you guys coming? Are you still coming? The cake is strawberry shortcake!" And little texts like that!
Breaks my heart seeing him sitting there! Waiting and waiting and I know that these boys are not coming!! Keep in mind they are 14 and 16 going on 17. They can find the time for their Dad!
Oh well we will see what happens today!
"And this too shall pass..."
Awwww
I feel so bad for your DH. That's gotta hurt. Is there any way you can contact SSs and find out what's going on? That's just too damn rude of them. The cake is gonna be getting furry.
Furry cake funny!
I have basically disengaged from those boys. They belong to BM and DH! They raised those selfish kids(good going)!
Not my kids I'm not getting involved. So as bad as i want to call them I'm not!
DH is just gonna have to see for himself!
"And this too shall pass..."
Awwwww...I'm sorry for yur DH
I can't imagine how that must feel. If it were me, if the kids don't come tonight, I'd chuck the cake and grab hubby and take him out for a bday beer....When I first met my skids, they didn't even know when their Dad's bday was....I thought that was just unacceptable...I blame BM....but the fact that yur DH has been going back and forth with them since Friday is sooo sad....sometimes DHs need to see things with their own eyes to realize some of the things we SMs have been telling them all these years, just MIGHT be true....take him out if they don't come.....its their loss...ya know...my niece is riddled with guilt now bcuz she used to blow off her dad with things...then he unexpectedly passed away and now she can't get those moments back...I know u have disengaged, but maybe a little note reminding them that that can happen to anyone might make a difference. Don't do it for the skids...do it cuz u love yur DH :)....just a suggestion
"You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar"
Good suggestion LotusFlower
Something so simple as having a piece of cake with your kids is really making him sad. He is already depressed from being home for almost a year on disability. All he wants to do is have birthday cake with his boys. And they can't even make an effort to come by... But when they want something like money or something sports related they find a way to call text or come by!
Again he will see for himself. I have no comment. So when he says to me today"The boys are coming by for cake tonight!' I'm just gonna say "Ok honey!"
But I already know that they won't show AGAIN tonight so I guess I will take him out for a beer!
Great idea!
"And this too shall pass..."
Maybe I'm being petty, but
Maybe I'm being petty, but they'd be getting the exact same thing right back at them when their birthdays roll around.
That's just unacceptable, IMO.
I agree with you 100% Jesses girl
"And this too shall pass..."
OMG
That nearly made me cry.
No Excuse!
So the big question will be:
What WILL your DH DO when their birthdays roll around???
I'd like to remind him with this little ditty:
"Stop making people a priority in your life that only make you an option in theirs"
I have this VERY saying posted in DHs home office as a reminder for his three "callously indifferent" daughters. Every time they pull nonsense like this, I quietly tape it to his latop monitor to remind him that they are, ONCE AGAIN, being little a$$holes to him, and he should not go out of his way to be nice to them the next time THEY want something from him!
"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"