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Submitted by WifeNTheMiddle on Thu, 07/30/2009 - 10:21pm

So DH's ex wants us to meet half way between Indiana and North Carolina to take SD back to her. We can only do this next week due to DH's work schedule and our son's school schedule. DH's ex doesn't know how to manage money and says that doesn't work for her. The ex said she would call so we could talk about arrangements, but instead when DH calls her, she's at a bar. Ex only calls when she wants money, even though she's paid child support. Ex also says she has no money...but she's in the military and makes 2 times the amount we do. DH is currently off work due to shoulder surgery and I only collect unemployment, but EX seems to think we have tons of money. We wish there was a way to make her grow up and come to grips that she's just irresponsible with her money. We don't know what to do.

P.S. Did I mention that it'll take us $700 for us to go half way.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 07/30/2009 - 11:54pm

would save her a lot of money and hassle?

I don't know what your custody agreement is, but if there is nothing in the court order or parenting plan regarding transportation, you need to get something in there ASAP. If she moved, she could be responsible for transportation. If you moved, you could be responsible for transportation. Get something set in stone so that next time, this dilemma can be avoided.

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Submitted by hello on Fri, 07/31/2009 - 8:14am

i am sorry your having a hard time. it is only fair that she meets half way. in this case the only thing you can do is keep the child with you until both of you can meet. if he has not said something to her about her spending habit mabe he should. if the situation does not get better i would say it is time to bring this matter to court. speak to a lawyer and see what actions you could take.

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Submitted by WifeNTheMiddle on Fri, 07/31/2009 - 3:01pm

that the military is making her take financial classes because of her spending problems...this is the best news I have heard in awhile!!! DH has talked to her several times about her spending problems, but it's always in one ear and out the other or it's an instant fight that we don't give her enough money. She just bought a brand new 2008 Dodge Nitro...and we drive a used 123,000 mile vehicle because we can't afford a new car. DH's aunt is a lawyer and we have our custody arrangements made through her to cut court costs. We have a set up payment to pay child support. She gets to claim her every year on taxes and even when we have physical custody in the summer..we have to pay support plus pay her living expenses while she's with us. And we do pay half of the travel arrangements for transportation...but this is a little ridiculous! Just because she wants us to work around her schedule.