BM called two days ago to let us know her friend had recently split from her hubby and had asked her to take her 14-year-old for "Awhile" while she rebuilds her life ... while that's completely admirable that she's willing to do that for her friend I am a bit concerned.

1) the 14-year-old and SS9 will be sharing a room whenever SS9 goes to her house, which is every second weekend and quite a few week-long breaks from school... I'm not sure how I feel about a teenager, who will likely be at the "self-exploration" stage of puberty in the same room as SS9 ... am I off base here?

We live in Canada and our child agreement with BM is pretty loose-y goose-y...

She's given every second weekend, alternating easter and Christmas's, and six weekends in summer and such times as agreed upon by the parties from time to time... agreement not unreasonably withheld

I don't see why BM feels the need to lie over small things.

When she sent SS9 home after a week off school recently she forgot his medication. She said she'd get her DH to send it to us as she was going on a trip with her BD.

Days later, after not receiving the meds we ended up getting the prescription filled (we didn't wait that long knowing she's unreliable).

So SS8 went to his moms this weekend. We had a development day for the teachers Thursday, so no school, and then the kids were supposed to be back in school Friday. As it was BM's weekend we figured we might as well let her have the Friday, with the understanding she would do his school work or it would never be an option again. She agreed, and made a big point of saying how she did the work with him.