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Off to a crappy start!

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Skids ruin literally everything. DH and I had a glorious skid-free week and wknd. DH got me a MD card and wrote some really sweet things in it, plus a gift card, and I actually got my first-ever Mother's Day text from SS15 yesterday, which was nice. Not a peep from SD12, yesterday or today. She was too busy posting selfies of her and Crazy, proclaiming her an "amazing mom", and "the best mom ever", and "I couldn't ask for a better mom". My mouth actually dropped open because HOW. Make it make sense!!! SD was just crying last Sat.

Are we the A-holes?

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So we are at the point where skids are literally ALWAYS in their rooms, unless DH drags them out to do something. Usually something that costs money. When DH and I are home, we are hanging out together (trust me, I'm not complaining) with maybe a 30-second appearance from a skid to go to the bathroom.  

Cashing in twice on Holidays

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Man, these skids and their expectations of double-holidays due to divorce. Typically we have done something for Easter for skids because we either have them, or they were younger so it made sense- an easter egg hunt, baskets. This year, SS is less than a month from 16, and SD is coming up on 13. Plus we didn't have them on Easter, Crazy did. But guess who is the one who facillitates any Easter baskets/gifts? That would be me. DH isn't into this stuff. I asked DH if he wanted to do anything this year and he said no- we don't have them on Easter and they are too old anyway.

Skid week from hell

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I almost lost it this weekend. Skids went by Crazy for Easter yesterday morning and I waited until they were gone to come out of our bedroom so I didn't have to see them- I have nothing left for them. I am in absolute bliss, knowing this is a skid-free week. It's like the sun is shining, not a care in the world (it's actually dark and snowy- IDGAF). 

I'm the common denominator

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Was just talking to DH about how the past few times skids have been with us, SD12 has been aloof, barely talking to me. He said she's been the same with him. I think it's partially PAS, he's not so sure because this has happened before and she's bounced back. He thinks it's partially because he's gone for work most nights. But I know Crazy has been working on them, she recently made them delete all pics of me from their phones. I told DH I know for a fact that she hangs out with Crazy outside of her room, while here she doesn't leave her room.

This is exhausting

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This is long, bear with me: SS15 is just constant drama lately. Today, he came home from school and said he was leaving right away to go to the girls soccer game. Cool, go do something other than play video games! But, lately when either skid leaves, they don't tell me who they're going with, then I have to drag it out of them. DH is sleeping for work at this time and while I encourage them to go do things (for the love of all things holy, GO DO THINGS), I do think we should know who they're with, and I'm the adult around so they need to tell me.

Update- SS is super salty

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Yesterday SS15 was big mad and wouldn't say hi or talk to me when he got home from school. I suspected DH had put screen time on his phone (this was after SS was staying up all night and needing to nap for 3hrs in the afternoon) when he is supposed to go to bed at 11pm. DH didn't like enforcing the rule, but I initially was like, look- you are working and I'm here with them- enforce the rules!

This kid...

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Oh good, another skid-related argument. About SS15, per usual. Looking for thoughts on how to handle this:

Although overall a really good kid, I struggle with him the most because he is sneaky, and I don't like sneaky. Lies flow off his lips like nothing (usually small ones). Also, he is the golden child, and DH HATES giving any consequences to him. Anyway, recently, SS has: 

OMG with the coddling and divorced dad guilt!

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Hi S-talkers! It's been a bit. I hit a point today where I was about to lose my mind. To recap the past year- my BF and I bought a house (in my name only, don't worry), got engaged, and have been counting down the days until skid freedom. Ok that's probably just me, but still. SD is now 11 and still a great kid, and SS is now 14 and just started a job at a well-known fast-food restaurant in town.

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