Yesterday SS15 was big mad and wouldn't say hi or talk to me when he got home from school. I suspected DH had put screen time on his phone (this was after SS was staying up all night and needing to nap for 3hrs in the afternoon) when he is supposed to go to bed at 11pm. DH didn't like enforcing the rule, but I initially was like, look- you are working and I'm here with them- enforce the rules! I then decided to disengage from it, and I still feel that way- I honestly don't care anymore, I'm sick of the stress and sick of arguing with DH about this, and I told him to handle this however he wants- I DON'T CARE. It's quite freeing (but extremely hard for me to get to this point).

Anyway, I finally talked to DH this morning when he got home from work, and he confirmed that he put screen time on SS's phone, and his plan was to set it for midnight (giving SS a buffer) in case he "couldn't sleep" and needed to stay on his phone to help him sleep (makes no sense, trust me, but SS has always claimed he needs a screen to fall asleep to and DH buys it). But, DH accidentally set the screen time to start at 9pm. SS absolutely panicked and text DH repeatedly at work starting at 9pm, then called him. *eyeroll*. I mean come on, you know he's working on a busy production floor and you are going to repeatedly blow up his phone because you can't do things on your phone for a while? Someone has an addiction. DH explained about the phone time and SS was all upset. DH told him- in bed at 11, everything dark/off at 11:30. SS protested. Seriously?? This is actually extra time from what you are supposed to get, and you're still complaining?? The nerve! DH told me, while I don't 100% agree with being strict on this rule, I will say that 11:30-12 seems like plenty late for him to be staying up, and any later than that is uneccessary, so I feel fine about putting this limit on his phone. I reiterated that I don't care what he does, I'm honestly never bringing this up again and if he wants to let natural consequences happen, do it- but he doubled down that he wants to do this, AND keep it in place when SS is at Crazy's. Ha, I'm sure that is going to go over great! Crazy is insistent that the kids should never have bedtimes and loves to tell them how ridiculous we are for having bedtimes during the school week here. SD12 stays up past midnight at her house! Here she has a 10pm bedtime but often goes to sleep before then because she's so tired. I told DH that SS was all salty with me yesterday, and he said, yeah probably because he knows the only way I would know he's staying up is from you- but I also said I don't care- in 6yrs of being an SM, he's been mad at me like 3 times. I feel like that's pretty good, and I'm not trying to be his best friend all the time. *unknw*