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DH called me by Crazy's name

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Mon, 04/03/2023 - 9:51am

Yesterday DH was asking if I needed anything from the gas station, and at the end of that sentence he called me Crazy's name. In front of SD13, who was standing right there, because of course she always has to go to the gas station with DH to try and get him to buy her things. My mouth literally dropped open in shock and I turned my back to him. SD said, Dad! Where did that come from?? DH turned red and came up to hug me and apologize. He said he had no idea why or how he said that.

The "Live at home in your 20's" trend

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Fri, 03/24/2023 - 11:28am

I recently stumbled upon an article, which also sent me down a Tik Tok rabbit hole, about 20-somethings (I'm talking mid-20's to 30) living at home with their parents, and how "amazing" it is. There are many tik toks these "kids" made, saying how they love living at home and how much money they are saving. There's even some dancing to emphasize said amazing-ness. Lots said they could even afford to live on their own, they just didn't want to. ALL of the comments are of other kids supporting it. "I'm 27 and live at home, it's awesome!". "Normalize living at home in your 20's!".

I honestly think he is messing with me * Update- I snapped

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Mon, 03/20/2023 - 10:29am

I told DH earlier this week that I think SS is f*%cking with me. He asked why and I went on to list my reasons: Every day he is here, he does something he knows he shouldn't be doing, or something that is just common sense not to do. Lately he is always with his gf (fantastic- go do things!) or working sometimes, so most of the time he is coming home for 20 minutes and doing this crap. He is almost 17 and a smart kid book-wise, and he knows better than to do all of these. 

A real dumpster fire of a week

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Fri, 03/17/2023 - 10:36am

We started off the skid week on Mon. with DH getting a text from SD13's principal before skids even got here saying SD had made suicidal statements at school. SD usually walks home, but DH had to go get her and put the "safety plan" into place that was developed with the therapist. He had to be in the same room as SD for 12hrs, which means they both slept in the living room. Apparently SD had issues with friends, again, and DH looked through her texts to discover that SD was the one who uneccessarily escalated the situation.

May have counted our chickens too fast

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Tue, 02/28/2023 - 2:58pm

So DH filed for COC, and although expectations were set ground-level low, DH was told by the Clerk of Courts that they would let him know when the paperwork was filed and he could pick it up and deliver it to the Sheriff's office, who would serve Crazy. DH didn't hear anything all week, then on Sat. he got a letter in the mail for a 15 min "scheduling conference" next Mon, March 6th, with zero details. Crazy got the same letter and told the kids about it.

DH filed for Contempt of Court!

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Wed, 02/22/2023 - 3:08pm

FINALLY!! Now, yes we completely understand that zero consequences will probably result from this and we aren't expecting anything, but we feel like we can't just sit and do nothing anymore. Crazy has completely stopped following the Communication guidelines in the CO, sends daily messages that are demanding, aggressive, harrassing, and she criticizes almost everything we do.

Starting the week off with PAS and lots of Crazy

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Tue, 02/14/2023 - 4:07pm

Skids came yesterday, but during the day (and all wknd really) DH and Crazy were arguing back and forth on OFW about Dr. appt's for SD13. There are SO many- literally 1-2/week, and managing them is insane. When DH says he will see what day works for him to schedule an appt, Crazy replies with "Use vacation to take your daughter to her appts!!! You don't even care about her appts!".  DH is in manufacturing- he has to find someone to work for him either way, and normal people try to schedule appt's so they don't have to use vacation! And he can, he just has to switch with people. 

ROFR Stress

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Tue, 02/07/2023 - 12:31pm

In August/Sept, DH and I took a 2 wk trip. We have week on/week off custody, and the CO states that if we need to have someone watch skids for 5+ days, we have to offer Crazy ROFR during the school year ONLY- that doesn't apply to summer. Of course that trip fell the first week of school, and Crazy said she wanted them. DH insisted on making it a "switch", rather than just offering her skids and her taking or leaving it. The CO says nothing about us making up the time- you must simply give the other parent the first choice to take skids during that time.

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