Little Caesar = SS11
Today was a Spring Holiday.
We live in a town comprised of 82% Catholic. So really, the town has been quiet because it's Good Friday.
Either way, the skids were home today and it wasn't too bad.
We went to SS9's therapist who is starting with SS11 next week.
The biggest punishment for SS11 is to take away electronic privileges like video games, cell phone, or TV. It devastates him. It makes me kind of ill how he reacts so I brought it up to his therapist and the truth hurt.
SS11 is probably unhappy here since we don't treat him like he is treated when he is with BM. Honestly, DH is very fair with both boys. I try to be but SS9 is just a nice kid compared to Little Caesar (SS11).
At any rate, he uses the TV and games to escape us. We are an unbearable reality for him.
It breaks my heart because I really try to make him feel welcome and I have tried so hard to bring him emotionally close but he refuses so as a result, I put him at a distance. SS9 is totally welcome of the love.
Why should I try to fully love a person, albeit a child, who does not want it?
What in the hell am I supposed to do with this kid?
The therapist said he isn't done assessing him and will help us all (Family Therapy) but for now, he said to keep doing what I am doing.
Grrr.
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Wow...maybe that's what my
Wow...maybe that's what my SS11 is doing. He is constantly on the computer when he is over here or texting on his phone. (But I am on the computer alot too)And I know he spends just the same amount of time on his computer/phone/vidoes games at home. I am tired of trying to make him feel welcome....although at the moment is IS NOT welcome at my house. I chalk it up to being a B-R-A-T and poor parenting by BM!!!! I am at the point where...if you don't like it here...don't come!
****I can do bad all by myself****
Hang in there. It sounds
Hang in there. It sounds like you really care for both boys and are doing a great job. It took my stepson 3 years to call me mom. But he did it on his own, no pushing on my part. Maybe one day he will hug me at will.
side note: at his basketball game 2 weeks ago, I got a kiss and a "see you later mom" in front of the other kids. Of course, since then, I'm a "thing in the way of his time with dad"
KIDS!
Really? But how old was he
Really? But how old was he when you took on the job of stepmom?