Open letter to My awful, dreadful, spoiled brat SKs.
Here is a list of things that I have done for both of you over the last 13 years your dad and I have been together:
-Sold my home against my own children's wishes, bought a new home that included bedrooms for both of you so that you would never feel like a guest when visiting your dad. I really regret that one because it caused a lot of emotional problems for my kids especially my son.
-Allowed my parents to treat you both like their own. Giving you savings bonds each birthday, christmas and just because. Which you cashed in and gave to your loser mother. I finally stopped my parents when they wanted to add you to their Will as heirs. Thank God!
-Bought all your Birthday, Christmas, graduation gifts because your dad did not have the money due to his paying 1/2 of his monthly income to your illiterate, uneducated, dysfunctional mother. I continued to do all the shopping and paying for your gifts because I thought it was the loving thing to do and felt you should be treated equally with my kids in-spite of the fact I never got a hug, a thank you or even a nod my way to your being grateful.
-Made sure you had medical insurance, car insurance, bought your school pictures, yearbooks. Did your laundry, cooked and cleaned for you.
In return you have given me hostility, called me fat, ignored me, referred to me as your "dad's wife" never told your friends your dad is remarried, referred to our home as "my dad's house" never thanked me once for anything without your dad telling you. Taken your psycho mom's side and treated her with such loyalty and love that it makes me think you two have no idea what a "normal" parent-child relationship looks like. I predict both of you will have a series of dysfunctional relationships and problems all your life until you get some counseling and discover what your mother gives you is void of any soul, love, warmth, empathy or understanding of other's feelings.
As of today, I am writing you both off. You are dead to me. I am cleaning out your rooms that are in MY house (yes I own this home) So get your shit out of my house by next week or it goes to Goodwill.
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I almost cried when I read
I almost cried when I read your post.
You've been through a lot and they will never appreciate it because well... they're just like their BM.
lots of Hugs for you!!!!
It hit home with me as well.
It hit home with me as well. We all feel that way. Just know that in the eyes of our creator you have done the right thing all of these years. Don't validate their ignorance. Continue to be the person you have been to those kids because you are showing your kids what it means to be a good kind caring woman. That is what is really important. Please do not take it personally because the apple does not fall far from the tree. That is why their dad is with you and not the BM.
God bless!
Good for you! You go woman
Good for you! You go woman
Good Riddance!!!
Good Riddance!!!
WOW...I LOVE all of you!!
WOW...I LOVE all of you!! The sad thing is my DH stood up to his kids. His daughter called to tell him I was "mean" to her brother's girlfriend because I did not approve of the photo collage she put together for my husband's mom (their grandma). You see there wasn't one photo of me, or my husband and me, or my children who call my DH kids "my brother and sister"...NO the SS girlfriend gave a collage of photos of her, my SS, my SD and my husband in a photo with his EX. I didn't say anything during the gift opening. My husband saw the photo to and was stunned. My mother in law whispered to my best friend who was also celebrating Christmas with us "oh my God, I could do without that photo" So we all got it. The EX does not belong in any photo collage given to my husband's mom. However, DH kids want to shove this woman down our throats everytime they can regardless of the fact just earlier that day my SD and her mom had a knock down drag out fight and the EX called my husband to say "I don't want this little bitch around anymore, she needs to go back to your house and live with you". Still....I'm the bad guy cause I call out the SS girlfriend and say "what possessed you to put a pic of my husband's EX wife in a family photo collage and give it to his mother?" WTF. So...when my SD called her dad and asked "why I was mean to the girlfriend" he tried to explain and the SD just says "THAT IS MY MOM, we don't have to keep her out of any photos, she's family" My husband got totally pissed off and told his daughter she needs to realize whose been the stable one all these years, whose been there for her. She would not consider anything and then started screaming at my husband that "you need to pay mom her child support" WTF??? He does pay, she just spends it on booze (which I understand. I'd be a raging drunk if I had to be around my SD all the time! LOL).
Anyway, the long and short of it is, my DH is not speaking to either of his children. We are going to seek counseling for how to deal with this. It is time all of our hurt feelings come out, lay it on the table. I don't believe my DH and I deserve this treatment or abuse. We just need to find out what the key words are to use and how to open a discussion. If either of my husband's children will not open up, then in my mind, it's time to cut them off--at least for me. He can see them on his own time, but never in my home.
Any of you tried counseling? I would like to hear from you. Did it work?
yes..that was beautifull.You
yes..that was beautifull.You go girl!..You did the right thing..and yes there IS a higher power who is appriciate you for your deeds.And show no love for those skids deeds and there twisted ss bm.