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Open letter Stepkids

thegoodwife's picture

Here is a list of things that I have done for both of you over the last 13 years your dad and I have been together:

-Sold my home against my own children's wishes, bought a new home that included bedrooms for both of you so that you would never feel like a guest when visiting your dad. I really regret that one because it caused a lot of emotional problems for my kids especially my son.

-Allowed my parents to treat you both like their own. Giving you savings bonds each birthday, christmas and just because. Which you cashed in and gave to your loser mother. I finally stopped my parents when they wanted to add you to their Will as heirs. Thank God!

-Bought all your Birthday, Christmas, graduation gifts because your dad did not have the money due to his paying 1/2 of his monthly income to your illiterate, uneducated, dysfunctional mother. I continued to do all the shopping and paying for your gifts because I thought it was the loving thing to do and felt you should be treated equally with my kids in-spite of the fact I never got a hug, a thank you or even a nod my way to your being grateful.

-Made sure you had medical insurance, car insurance, bought your school pictures, yearbooks. Did your laundry, cooked and cleaned for you.

In return you have given me hostility, called me fat, ignored me, referred to me as your "dad's wife" never told your friends your dad is remarried, referred to our home as "my dad's house" never thanked me once for anything without your dad telling you. Taken your psycho mom's side and treated her with such loyalty and love that it makes me think you two have no idea what a "normal" parent-child relationship looks like. I predict both of you will have a series of dysfunctional relationships and problems all your life until you get some counseling and discover what your mother gives you is void of any soul, love, warmth, empathy or understanding of other's feelings.

As of today, I am writing you both off. You are dead to me. I am cleaning out your rooms that are in MY house (yes I own this home) So get your shit out of my house by next week or it goes to Goodwill.

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shootingstarz's picture

Amazing! Smile

thegoodwife's picture

No. Just wrote it to get it off my chest. Sending it would do nothing. We (my husband and I) tried to talk to his kids about how they treat me and all we got was alienation. After years of telling us how "crazy mom is" how they don't want anything to do with her, somehow they reconnected with her and have written us off. They will end up in a big fight again and come crawling to us. Why it has to be either or ( us or her) is confusing to me. They know too well their mom is a psycho. She's diagnosed bi-polar on and off meds. Has called the cops on her daughter because her daughter "back talked her" thrown her daughter out of the house at 1am because she would not clean her room. Woke her from a dead sleep and decided it was time to "clean". When SD refuse, crazed mom picked her up out of bed and threw her out of the house. SD came to live with us. While here went back to her old neighborhood to visit a friend and spend the night. Mom gets wind of it, calls SD wants her to stay with her, SD refuses, mom calls the cops and reports SD as runaway. Cussed out SS girlfriend, said SS was no longer allowed to use psycho's car to pick up g/f from work, wanted money from the g/f for gas. SS got so pissed he used his school aid to pay his mom. Event after event. YET we are the ones who they get mad at and refuse to speak to.

Come to think of it, I need to write another letter to them, outline all the bi-polar manic events, all the times she's embarrassed them and then SEND it.