Over the 13 yrs I have been with my husband, there have been many incidents where I have to be around his psycho bi-polar EX wife and each time, she goes out of her way to cause problems. I try to ignore them but it's no use. Everyone agrees the EX behavior is inappropriate, crazy and plain wrong, but no one will EVER call her on it for fear of creating a "scene". Case in point: 11 yrs ago my husband's grandmother passed away. He wanted me to attend the funeral with him. Of course I did even though I had only met his grandmother 2 times. The EX arrived with the step kids.

Here is a list of things that I have done for both of you over the last 13 years your dad and I have been together:

-Sold my home against my own children's wishes, bought a new home that included bedrooms for both of you so that you would never feel like a guest when visiting your dad. I really regret that one because it caused a lot of emotional problems for my kids especially my son.