I agree how the system is messed up. BF works his ass off every week and has very little to show for it. His pay check after taxes and child support is $246.00. Tell me how anybody can survive off this. In the mean time BM barely puts in 20hrs per week, collects her child support filed for CCPO ( daycare supplement, WIC,medicare and the Lonestar card. Now the CCPO her mother collects and gives back to BM and pays her bills. She has no rent because her mother owns the trailer she lives in. Her tax return was well over 3500.00 and she had no problem running out there and buying a new pickup that a 20hr per week job could not pay for. So the well needed child support goes to the truck payment.
BF has a 1993 vehicle which is getting close to it's last leg. Fortunately truck payment is only 260.00 per month so monthly income is 984.00 - 260.00 = 724.00 then there is gas and insurance. There really isn't much left for him, how do u pay rent, utilities? most place rent for 500.00 and what about food... oh that's right he don't qualify for food stamps. So while he is busting his ass he is suppose to starve. But it gets better, he has his son every weekend so now he is paying double child support. Buying all the things he needs for our house. We can barely get her to part with 2 cans of formula per month. I am the outsider to all of this we are not married but I too provide for our family. He is very thankful for our struggles because we have made a difficult situation a very happy one. We work together to get through the struggles life has. I have a two bedroom house, I have a newer vehicle we both commute in. We both know things could have been very different for both of them if our relationship wasn't as strong as it is. I don't know where he would be, or if his relationship with his son would be as strong. I find it very funny how the other day the BM had the nerve to tell him how she was doing this all on her own and how he has me and my income to help. Has she forgtten the weekly checks? or the governments helping hand in all of this? You know I feel she has it pretty easy not everyone is lucky enough to have the BF who pays his child support on time and takes the baby every weekend so she can party without regards to the care of her son. I guess by her pointing out how he has me and my income makes her feel better by sticking it to him. I mean really.... is anyone keeping her from finding someone or is it just because she wants us to feel sorry for her?
I know being a single parent cannot be easy, anytime she feels like it is just too much believe me BF will be there waiting with open arms to relive her of her duties.
What doesn't kill uswill make us stronger.
Kim